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writes:I am very angry and upset with my boyfriend. We were out with some friends of his at a bar. They commented on my colored hair. I dyed it black. My original hair is dark brown almost black. My boyfriend said I reminded him of Rosie O'Donnell. I got very mad broke out in tears and felt embarrassed in front of his friends. He said i was having a low self esteem.....Is that true or should I be mad?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): Well, seems like I got a lot of negative hits for my comment. (We can tell). I am not sure why... I did not say he was right in saying what he did in front of friends. But, again, did you ask him what he thought of your dyeing your hair before you did it? You probably didn't. He obviously does not like it. You might have asked. I would not dye my hair or grow a mustache or beard if my s/o told me she would rather I didn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): Well, I don't think he meant to put you down, hon. I guess it might depend on what you think of Rosie....(smile)...Did you ask his opinion before you dyed your hair? You might should have. I think he like it like it was.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): Well, I think your tears were a sign of low self esteem. But I would be mad too. It's a comment you found offensive, so be offended. Don't be sad over such things. Don't let another person dictate your self worth.
Also if he made the comment to his friends that you have low self esteem, I think that's inappropriate of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): He really shouldnt of said anything like that. Since you colour of hair as rather close to black, then it really shouldnt be that noticable, right? If cared about what was bound to happen next, he should of said something a long the lines of..."Why did you, it was wonderful the way it was" or "It looks very nice". He didnt have to meanish about it and make you cry. You had every right to mad/upset.
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