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writes: Im so confused :-( My boyfriend (on and off for 4 years, we are now 17 1/2) has being ignoring me constantly at school, and treating me badly. Im not sure if it is just me being paranoid but it never used to be like this. Things have happened in the past which have made trust quite a big problem but he cant ever admit to any problems being had, so its always my fault about everything. His excuse for not wanting to talk to me is that he is scared of me. How lame, i cant believe it after 4 years that he can say this to me. He sits there right in front of me having a laugh with his friends and goes out with them, but all of a sudden, im just insignificant to him. Its breaking my heart, all i want is to be loved and feel special.I havent a clue what to do, at times i want to kill myself. I would do anything for his love and affection, but somehow i just know it wont come anymore. Please help me im in such despair, i love him so much. Reply to this Question
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reader, babyjojo  +, writes (18 December 2010):
my bf is being so pathetic still on that runescape he calls me when he is on the game really winds me up then i told him about it and he argued sticking up for his game then hung on me and i said i didnt want to be with him aint heard from him for 3 days you would think he wouldnt want to lose me but the damage is done never was right from get go i have no friends because of him he has twisted my head and made me so down never a week goes by where he is pissing me off wtf i thought he loved me but he just uses me cos he aint got no one else so hurt its my bday on 22nd december and he has ruined things already i can actually say i love and hate him
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reader, babyjojo +, writes (18 December 2010):
its really bad now i posted about my bf playing runescape.
Well he is so childish he still plays that crap and hangs up on me so the other day he was on the phone to me while he was playing his game. Really gets to me he hung up on me because i put my foot down then he hung up im like wtf how can u do that so i txted him and said dont want to be with u anymore if he wants to play that game and not bother with me more fool him. So now its been 3 days and he aint bothered u would think me saying i dont want to be with him would make him think he wouldnt want to lose me so childish its my birthday on wednesday 22 suppose he wont bother so hurtfull men are just so pathetic some times ive come to the point where i hate him i have no friends which was his fault i need a man who will love me and put me first.
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reader, babyjojo +, writes (29 October 2010):
hi my boyfriend and i have been together 4 years now like 3 years ago he starts playing this game called runescape and he has treated me bad. he always ignores me due to playing it never puts me first and alaways talking on there to his so called friends. even when im at his house he will play but just leave me sitting there i tried going on thinking that would work but no he takes the piss so much i hate playing it do it for his benifet. now im close to breaking he is 23 and im 21 cant believe he is so addicted to this stupid game we both said that we would have compromisises when he can go on and ill do my own thing.but i dont get it why cant he just come off that crap and put me first has any one else had this problem..
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reader, babyjojo +, writes (29 October 2010):
hi my boyfriend and i have been together 4 years now like 3 years ago he starts playing this game called runescape and he has treated me bad. he always ignores me due to playing it never puts me first and alaways talking on there to his so called friends. even when im at his house he will play but just leave me sitting there i tried going on thinking that would work but no he takes the piss so much i hate playing it do it for his benifet. now im close to breaking he is 23 and im 21 cant believe he is so addicted to this stupid game we both said that we would have compromisises when he can go on and ill do my own thing.but i dont get it why cant he just come off that crap and put me first has any one else had this problem..
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): same here but my relationship was on and off noone should be treated like that warn him that he is going to loose you and if he doesn't care he isn't worth your time
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2010): get some time and talk to him why he is treating you the way he does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): Hi....I'm facing the same situation wd my boyfrnd....
He ignores me a lot but i love him so much dat i just think of leaving him...
He used to treat me like a princess in the starting of our affair but now all of dat has disappeared...he never replies me if i send him any text...he talks to me for max. 10mins. in a day....
He has time to talk to his frnds & go on breaks in our office hours....but wen i ask him to go out wd me, he says dat he dont want anybody to knw abt our affair.... dis hurts me a lot thinking dat he is scared of our relationship....i sometimes feel like resigning from the office thinking dat it wl help me to forget him....all my frnds advises me to leave him but dnt knw wat is dat thing coz of which i feel miserable thinking the same.... I want to be wd him all forever....***One thing i have learnt dat but we dnt get everything in life dat we crave for....!
My suggestion for u is dat "if u have self-respect den leave him"....trust me it wl be painful for sometime but it wl alright after dat.......I M GONNA DO THE SAME........ALL THE BEST !!!!!!
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reader, sweetsaraa  +, writes (28 August 2009):
So I read this page, and thought that the part where he said he was scared of you was kind of odd. And then a few hours later, my boyfriend and I got into an argument and he ended up telling me that he was scared of me. Thats some serious irony.Honey, The key in any relationship: communication. Its been four years, maybe he has just realized that what he once wanted in a girlfriend, the qualities that you posessed, are not the same things that he wants now. Ive been through this situation too many times. Why dont you just try and spend sometime apart for awhile? Make him realize that you dont need him to be happy, even if its not necessarily the way that you feel. When he sees that youre fine without him, chances are he will want to make things right with you. And if not, you do NOT need a guy like that. Just write me if you ever need a friend or somebody to talk to. (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): I would take the x-box and wrap it around his shoulders and say i hope she keeps you nice and arm and then walk out the door and never look back. All of these guys treat you like this because you allow it. Have some respect and stop groveling for these losers.!!!!
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reader, AmiiBaybeex33 +, writes (31 July 2009):
This is a hard situation for anyone, i know how it feels as i experience it every day. My boyfriend nd I have being together for nearly 6 months, seems a small amount of time yeah but i am only 16, his 18. But anyway at first he treated me like i was some kind of princess, always txtin me telling me how muchh he loved me and all that, he still does that yeah but only when his apolosing for snapping at me yet again, he calls me names, he tells me shut up when i havent said anything, he trys telling me who to be friends with and when i tell him bollocks he jus says, well if you want to be with me then its upto you. But i just cant take the stress anymore, i feel drained of everything, and a complete different person to how i was when i first met him, it feels like i cant do or say anything right. I love him so much but i sick and tired of been treated like im nothing, im supposeed to be his entire world but he just doesnt understand that theres only so much i take. All i ever do is cry on my friends shoulders these days. Aswell when his done something wrong he'll turn it round on me sayin im the one to blame then he'll start picking out all my faults, and if im in a mood with him ( which is very rare ) he wont try and cheer me up, he just wont speak to me for the rest of the day. I dread seeing him now, im completely heartbroken, i honestly thought he was the one, but i just cant carry on like this. So my advice to you would be to just leave him.
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reader, crazzibeautiful94 +, writes (12 March 2009):
I kind of have the same situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. And i love him ALOT. I would do anything for him to pay more attention to me. Like whenever we are at school he NEVER talks to me. He gives other girls more attention than he does me. And whenever i try to talk to him in school he will reply with one word and walk away. I hate it! He can sit there with his friends and laugh and have a good time. He can talk to other girls in school but not me. It really bothers me. But when school is over he will text me and act like he does care about me. He doesnt talk to me in school but he texts me when were NOT in school. That is the only time he talks to me. Sometimes I wonder if he is the right guy. I feel like he is. And he is always telling me over texts that he loves me so much and he never wants to lose me. Well if he cant show his love in person i dont think he is right. Boys are really confusing. And the weird thing is i have lots of guy friends and they give me ALOT of attention in school. They act like they ARE my boyfriend and they arent. I am thinking i need to break it off with my boyfriend if he is going to act like this. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): Hi, right i am going through the same kinda thing now. ive been with my b/f for 8 months now and he never used to treat me badly but then there was xmas holz. all through the holz we wer textin but whenever i said cd we meet up he always used to make an excuse. eventually when we got back to school he was bein a complete arse and never spent any time with me and the only way i could talk to him was through text out of school. ok so maybe i have over reacted a bit he did kiss me evry once in a while but it was always in front of his friends and then he would ignore me. i felt like a tool like i was bein completly used. my mates were really supporting but i still felt incomplete. i loved him with all my heart but i realised it wasnt fair. i sent him a txt tellin him he was dumped becuz of the way he treated me nd it turned out it was a dare to ignore me for 1 whole month. i then told him where to go but he begged me. the next day when i went back to skl he spent all day with me and i noticed he didnt spend time with his so called friends. recently he has started meetin up with his old friends again and we both couldnt be happier. so my advice to you is to stay happy and just let him come round if that doesnt work, Tell Him!!
hope that helped you xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): I'm going through the same.
Been with my boyfriend for 2 years, i'm 16 now.
He's such an ass. He goes out with his mates all the time and dumps me loads so we're always on and off. He just ignores me. I havn't talked to him for 7 hours and i'm struggling already! It's so hard :'( i just want to call him up.
He's probably out right now.
I think you should just ignore him until he talks to you first. We can go through it together :D the longest i've gone without talking to my boyfriend is 24hours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): If your boyfriend doesn't appreciate you then leave him.
Go find someone that will take care of you, and show love for what he has.
Your boyfriend will never know what he has until he loses you.
You are something he should have cherished and loved,
Something he should have been afraid to lose.
Some guys just won't ever learn until it's just too late.
Take it from me, I'm one of those sad sorry guys.
Girls should never be afraid of losing a guy.
That should always be a fear of a man.
Some guys just don't deserve love, because they don't know what it is.
And your boyfriend will never find that out until he loses love.
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reader, lorniie +, writes (17 July 2008):
my boyfriend treats me the same. i just dunno what to do. i love him so much it hurts when he ignores me. he said that we shouldnt tell anyone at school because he will get bullied because i do coz of the way i look. i really love him so much but he ignores me. i just wantto stay with him forever. just like he said we would be. my heart aches so much when i see him coz i know i just want him.my friend isso supportive i dunno what id do without her.
lorniie
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): What I think is that you need to leave this boy alone. If he cant show that he loves you in public it is a possibility that he doesnt love you at all. I've larned from past experiences that every boy is not going to treat you right and sometimes the hardest thing to do is let him go because obviously your not worth his time so why should he be worth yours. What you need to do is step back and think about your relationship with this person and realize that as hard as it may seem you have to let go. It seems as if your hurting more with him than you are without him. So my best advice would be to find someone who wont ignore you at school. And gives you all the attention a girl longs for.
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reader, kymber +, writes (20 December 2007):
right girl.. hold ur head up high its not as bad as it looks u just need to work a little! go out and have your hair done or do somethink that makes ur confidence boom right up, when your at school dont approach him try to avoid looking into hes direction just simply play the same game! when he trys contactin you for example ringing you just simply say ill ring u back im abit busy atm! make out u hav no time for him! iv been in this sitution with my boyfreind i use 2 walk into a club and he would be in there and he used exactly the same excuse that he was scared of me! and thats why he left the club and stuff like this! so i wouldnt ring him, cuz before he would no id be on the phne giving him what he wanted! so i left it and yeh i did sit at home crying my eyes out, thinking he aint going to bother 2 days later i thought it was really over and he didnt care, but then out the blue at 6.30 in the morning i got a phone call sayin i love u so much iv realised this im so sorry i really want to c u and i said no im going back to bed im tierd, then the next thing i no hes at my door! so believe me the best thing to do is ignore him i no its hard but go out with your freinds and have a good time he will come round! but some lads are like that when they are with there mates cause we all no what lads are like wen they are togther with the arhh shes got u under the thumb" so maybe he just acts that way to act the big man to hes freinds, cause i thats one thing my boyfreind does when hes with the lads i just leave him to it! same as he does when im out with my freinds. well good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Listen, here's advise from a 29 year old woman. You have a lot to learn about men in general, and unfortunately the truth hurts and the truth is that the only way to figure them out is through experience, and here's a heads up, a little tid bit I should say to start you off into the right direction when it comes to the male female relationship. # 1. Emotionally and mentally, most men are emotionally different than that of a woman, (and don't let any androginous liberals tell you I'm wrong). Men are hunters, try not to be so eaily attainable emotionally, #2.
Men live in the now and you are thinking way more about the dynamics of the relationship than he is, he may be thinking about it but in a different way, your thought are much more complex than his, he runs off of GOOD/BAD feelings,be fun and free spirited around him, not desperate and emotional because even if he loves you acting that way will give him the BAD feeling. #3. King of an extention of #2, Women tend to think of a relationshp as an end all be all at a younger age then men, and truthfully men really never catch up to that emotion even well into a long term marriage, and here's some really advanced stuff for you, if you do catch one for the long haul, "those that play together, stay together" As hard as it may be, don't make it a job for him to be with you, in other words, don't act like a long term relationship, and the way he feels towards you is the most impotant thing in your life because you in turn make him feel responsible for your happiness which is way too much for most men especially at your gutys ages.
PRINT THIS OUT AND REFERENCE BACK WHEN YOU HAVE DOUBTS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, AND TRUST ME THERE WILL BE MORE AND THIS WILL ALL MAKE SENSE TO YOU, HOPEFULLY EVEN BEFORE YOU ARE MY AGE.
Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): ya my boyfriend has been ingoring me lately too. all he focuses on is his stupid video games. i walk in the room after being gone all day and he does not even look towards me, just goes right on playing his stupid games. and even when i am there, he does not talk to me or anything. if i talk to him he gets all pissed off and yells at me. i make his damn breakfast and lunch every day for him to go to work. i get up and 4:30-5:00 every morning to make sure he is taken care off and he has a nice lunch and breakfast. there is no way in the world he would ever do that for me now. just like right now.i have been gone at work all day, i left after him and i have not seen him since 6:30 this morning. it is now 10:30 at night and he did not hug me or even kiss me hello. between talking to his x box live people and playing his stupid game he barely said hello. what the hell is up with that. we have been together steadily for almost 2 years and he use to pay all the attention in the world to me and take me everywhere i wanted, but now he never wants to go out and i am invisible. i do not know what to do anymore. then tonight i said ill just go to commit suicide.com and he laughed and told his x box buddies that i was saying some funny shit. if i was serious i would have done it and he would not have even cared. i dont know what to do anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): i have a boyfriend ive been with for almost 2 years. i am forced to live with him because i have no where else to go. seeing eachother 24/7 has been driving us to do crazy things we would not do normally. i love the kid to death and i would do anything for him, but we handle our situations alot differnetly. he becomes physical when stressed now, and didnt used to before, also, he likes to leave me and turn off his phone and not talk to me for days, its really depressing because ive fallen in love with a jerkoff, or perhaps he is just really stressed out from everything that has been going on. i cant stand it anymore i am going to go crazy you know. all of my friends tell me to leave him but i cant i care about him too much. it sucks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): If yur boyfriend ignores you and treat yu badly , it is time to move on. I know that four years is a long time and that ou have deep feelings for him, however, you have to know and believe that you deserve much better than that. You have to be strong and leave him alone. Trust me , he will realize what he has ost once you are gone and if he does not, then you will realize that you were better off with out him anyways. Your life is to precious to want to end it over a boy who doesnt realize that h as someon vry special in his life. It going to be hard, use all of your strength, courage, and power to focus on yourself and not him. At your age, there is so much to focus on school, higher education, yur future career. There is someone special out there for you that will love you for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2005): I'll be honest. Me and my g/f have been together a while now. We've had problems but got over them and went back to normal all the time. In "my" situation, I cheated on her and regreted it to the grave. I never brought it up, but one day somebody had found out and she asked me about it. I started telling her stuff like, "You're crazy, Omg I can't believe you believe them, do u not trust me, what's a relationship without trust" etc.. Never had i acted like that during being accused or asked about something like that. She even asked me why i was acting wierd, ignoring her sometimes, giving her unexpected attention other times. The truth was I was feeling so guilty and worried that I did those kind of things out of reaction.This doesn't mean he's cheating on you. Maybe his friends are making fun of him telling him you have him on a leash, check, w/e u wanna call it. Could be he's trying to be "Mr Big man" and show them that he's not a wuss. Don't ask why he'd be a wuss for loving you and being around you all the time. But highschool is just like that. So figure out if his friends are part of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2005): Actually right now I'm in a similar situation...you feel like you should dump him but you don't want too. The truth is i think you should ignore him for a while. That should get him to lighten up. If he's hitting you, then tell him to f**k off! You can do better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2005): Actually right now I'm in a similar situation...you feel like you should dump him but you don't want too. The truth is i think you should ignore him for a while. That should get him to lighten up. If he's hitting you, then tell him to go away in no uncertain terms! You can do better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2005): okay girl you need to break up with him hes not givin you the time of day blamin everythign on you that aint right at all you should just dump him and let it be yeah you lov ehim you might be like me always wantin to feel loved in any kinda way even if it hurtz it dont matter if love well thats not agood im gettin ova taht you dont need him you can dom uch betta and get a guy who loves you and will talk to you good luck
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