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writes:Hi guys i dont know what to do man i am all stressed out yo.I am 16 and currently talk to a male over the internet for about 3 months lets say, he is 23. he told me he loves me but he lives very far from me and so the chances of us meeting are very slim and he said he trusts me but now e told me not 2 talk to this guy but i did and he is my online friend 2 but not like him i really feel for this guy but he thinks i betrayed him by talking to this boy. i told him everything but he doesn't understand he thinks im a liar and gives me attitude and swore in front of me which i never did and all my friends trust me on everything if there is a problem they will be like u come here and make me the proof cause thy know i never lie but he is the first person telling me i am a liar. he is my first online boyfriend u can say i feel real stressed out on what to do. I didn't even talked to the other guy that much just like hi and all but he thinks i'm not trust worthy anymore which really hurts and when he tells me that i'm a big liar. i love him but don't know what now we are still in a fight he said we can just be friends and he said he sort of hates me now but still if i didn't come online he leaves me a message saying i might be busy with this guy who he said not to talk to.. i am confused and don't know what to do he insulted me by calling me a lier telling me 2 shut up and so many other things but im still with him plz guys plz help me through this i need help i'm all stressed out. I have no interest in guys like other girls not like everyone and he said i pretended to be like that when i am not but i am cause i never pretended ans should i even be with him but it might be all cause he loves me a lot and may be got mad cause i talked t this other guy he said if i wanted to talk to him i could have told him but the thing is that u lied but he hardly came online so i never told him so now he has been very moody and rude a little to me and sometimes gives me attitude we have voice conversations too we used to talk for 5-8 hrs sometimes all day and we didn't used to get bored during summer. i'm very loyal to him cause i had 7 guys telling me thy love me but i said no cause i never wanted to have a boyfriend cause i just wanted to love 1 person my entire life and to be taht only persons wife so if that person is my husband i wanted to be his forever but don know what hpnd i felt for him and now i think i am deeply in love with him i didn't know what to do so plz help me i am very stressed out plz help
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reader, cherry10133  +, writes (31 October 2008):
okay if you are 16 you should not be dating a 23 year old man and how do you know hes not lying he could be a perv or a molester or he could be like 40 or even 50 (ewww) im not trying to be mean but i know how it feels to like some one you dont even know but you can to better date some one in you school over a friend but never over the computer im saying all this couse i dont want you to get hurt even if i dont know you i have the experince and i just barly got away with my life
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reader, cherry10133 +, writes (31 October 2008):
okay if you 16 you should not be dating a 23 year old man and how do you know hes not lieing he could be a perv or a mlester or he could be like 40 or even 50 (ewww) im not trying to be mean but i know how it feels to like some one you dont even know but you can to better date some one in you school over a friend but never over the computer im saying all this couse i dont want you to get hurt even if i dont know you i have the experince and i just barly got away with my life
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): if he's that jealous then it would be hard to persue the relationship... he's not giving you space to breathe or live.now my online boyfriend was the same, but i did things to show i love him, like love notes and stuff, now im about your age so i can relate to you. There's a lot of danger talking to this guy, he might be decent but you don't know for sure, i just don't want you to do something you'd regret, because there are so many sickos out there. i know that if you really love him nothing can stop you seeing him, just if you EVER meet up with him ALWAYS make sure it's in a public place, and you should always bring someone else you know with you, or at least tell someone where you're going. If you talk to an older person you trust i'm sure they'dbe supportive and give you some good advice, just take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): Girl ths guy is way too old 4u and to be frank sounds lyk a nasty paedophile.ìur own safety i hope to god u havnt givn him ur p
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2007): hi dear i can very well understand your situation because i m also passing with the same situation difference is this that i m of 19 and the guy is of 27 .i can understand that what u feel about this guy i m sure u r in love with person, may be he also loves u with the same depth but he seems a control freak may be its because he is far from u so he feels insicure,but dear u hav to think for the otherside also hav u given him ur pictures and other personal details? and after that if he is behaving like this then i think u must tell everything obout him to your mom because u r only of 16 honey and u hav a long life before u i can understand about your dedication for him u r a nice girl and want to be with him for always but do u want that the other one takas the advantage of your dedication and honesty .i think u hav to try to talk him once and if he response then just be his freind and talk with him as a human being or a friend not as a boyfriend in some times u will be able to find out obout his attitude towards u i m not telling u to get out of this relationship very sudden because i know its not possible for u.but try to do this take some time,and if he dosnt responce then he can go to hell realy because he dosnt deserves your dedication.never feel that u r cheater or lier come out in the real world u r a sweet and nice girl and will surely find out a sweet loving guy
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reader, CLHLCRS  +, writes (10 October 2007):
this guy is too old for you at your age and if he calls you a liar and treats you like garbage over the internet how vile would he be to you in real life?
he doesn't love you. if he did he'd treat you better and he wouldn't be so controlling. he probably has several other girls as 'girlfriends' over the internet as well, it's doubtful you're the only one.
delete his emails, delete him from your instant messaging completely and just forget about him and find a decent guy who'll treat you properly
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (10 October 2007):
 Huni he is 23 you are 16, and you havnt met and you probably wont and you dont talk about sex and stuff? As much as you will hate me for saying this i dont think he loves you i think you will find its more then likely your not the only girl he is talking to and he probably has a real girlfriend i know you think he loves you but i dont think you can trust him if i were you i would block him he seems like a complete crazed control freak, forget him move on find a realy nice guy.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (10 October 2007):
 The guy is a control freak and he is preying on you. He looks for an exclusive online relationship because he lacks the ability to meet women his own age in the real-world. He finds it easier to impress a 16 year old with much less life experience and he feels inadequate when you speak with other guys because it loses his grip over you. This guy is not your boyfriend as that requires real-life meeting. You don't love him, it is more of an internet addiction. Basically to love someone you have to know them in the real world - their online persona can be all rather different. He sounds very immature for his age and his interest in teenage girls underlines this fact. He maybe speaking to 100's of teen girls on the net and you would never know! Hang up your keyboard and concentrate on your real life social world as the internet is full of freaks and weirdos just waiting to take advantage of a nice young lady such as yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): Ok baby, I am going to say a few things to you here that you may not like, but listen I am old enough to be your older auntie, so please listen to what I have to say.
You live in the US, you are underage, you are 16, you are talking on-line to a man of 23, he is an on-line predator, he knows the laws, he knows you are too young for him and he is grooming you and saying things to you to make you trust him, and now you have convinced yourself that you are deeply in love with a man you have never actually met.
I hope a couple of things for you. I hope that you will turn off your computer.
And talk to your mother about this man you have been chatting with who is 7 years your senior and knows better than to be pursuing a child.
I hope you will get outdoors and enjoy the sunshine.
I hope you will learn that Cinderella was just a freakin' fantasy fairy tale, and that love does not mean that it will be with one person, who becomes your husband for life, anything else you have failed horribly at love, and you have missed your chance at it. Nothing coulf be further from the truth. You are not yet mature, but someday you will see what I mean. Life is about choices and decisions, it isn't about what magically happens to us or who may fall in our path....if a guy is inappropriate, you need to step over him and keep on going.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): your only young and as i think its called kick him to the curb be alone be single till youve finshed your ed u which is education in grown up terms you dont need some1 that will drag u down so chill hang out and for god sake grow up
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reader, Pinkbees09 +, writes (10 October 2007):
 I didn't read all of thi but from what I read I say dump the guy. If he's calling you a liar and your trying to tell you the truth, why bother? You guys should just be good friends, not to mention he is a bit older than you.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (10 October 2007):
You are taking these online fantasies way too seriously. Take some time to cool off.
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