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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost four years, I am 18 and he is 22. We were each others first, and we started having sex around 6 months, we did it at the park, in this secret hidden area since we couldn't do it at each others home's or anything well anyway I think a girl going down on him was always his fantasy so the second day we tried sex he made me go down on him and I gagged a lot but he loved it and then I tried him going down on me but he would go down and then up and stare at it and he had this face of like confusion and kind of disgust I'm clean shaven and I have good hygiene and since then I never brought it up since I thought he was disgusted by it but recently this year I started feeling it was so selfish because I go down on him at least two times a day I just feel like its so selfish because he gets the pleasure out of it and I get nothing, that's his favorite thing to do always he doesn't go a day without it and its been four years and I started bringing it up this year and he's like "oh I will" and "okay babe I will" and one day he tried it and he stopped like after three seconds and I was asking him if I was nasty or what? and he said he didn't know what to do and felt like he didn't know what he was doing.and I dk what to tell him to do because I've never had that done to me. I don't understand how HE can't know because he watches p*rn a lot and I know in the p*rn videos the guys who down and them zoom in and crap :( (porn is disgusting to me I gag when watching it so I don't know wanna watch it) and I really want him to do that because the face he makes and the pleasure he gets when I do it to him I want to feel that too and my friends say its the most pleasurable thing ever and I can only imagine cause once he kisses me in that area even on my legs I feel so amazing and I just wish he would go down on me, its my fantasy too:( what can I do? or how can I persuade him or do I have no hope? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2011): Great answer person12345. She's very right OP, he doesn't deserve anything until he starts showing he wants to make the effort and make you feel good! For years you have been doing all the work. So simply refuse and when he asks for it, don't give in, just tell him why should I? Until you go down on me without me having to beg and actually make an effort to enjoy it and make you feel good, you must simply refuse to go down on him. Be strong or it'll never work. It's gone on so long because he thinks he can (and he has) get away with it. Good luck
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Simple. Stop going down on him. He's being a selfish jerk, that's all there is to it. This relationship is entirely one-sided. Basically he doesn't get head if you don't get some. Why would you continue to give him oral every single day without anything in return?
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