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writes:My boyfriend has genital herpes so we have to use condoms all the time. I don't really like it but I can manage having sex using one, although it's not ideal. The problem is, I don't like giving him oral sex with a condom on, it just feels like I sucking plastic! We've tried flavoured condoms and it's a bit better, it's just that skin to skin thing that's missing. He enjoys giving me oral sex and I want to return the favour, I even enjoy it sometimes but with a condom, it's just no good!I also feel part of the problem is my insecurity. I feel like a blowjob with a condom on isn't very good for him either so I feel like I'm not pleasuring him like other women did before he got herpes. This is probably part of the reason I don't like doing it, although he says he really loves it when I do it anyway.Am I being stupid, staying with someone who has this disease? We've been together for a year and I love him but this is too much sometimes, I need some elses view. Am, I overreacting? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2006): Isn't this treatable with antibiotics? Or am I thinking of some other STI?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2006): He sounds like a very responsible young man.
Does he use pills to prevent outbreaks? Even when he is having an outbreak; he shouldn't be having sex.
Does he use creams?
What has his family doctor suggested? Have you both gone for a visit with his doc?
I can understand that you have fears of not being desirable enough or that you are not pleasing him enough but what can be done if this is how he prefers it to be?
Have you had this discussion with him? It has been a year and if you can see it lasting longer; address your concerns with him and see what he has to say.
I don't think you should let this bring you down.
Do you give hand jobs without a condom? Have you tried lubricants for this? In the shower with shampoo?
Hope this helps.
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