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writes: Hello,I'm really getting conserned. I've written recently about my bf who came from New York on Thurs, but hasn't bothered to call me nor text me as his phone is off.Now I find myself worried because he has basically disappeared, he sent me a text on Sat saying he was meeting with friends, "which hurt as he hasn't even seen me" but now I'm worried if something happened to him.I'm his gf and he has told me that I'm his world and he has dropped off the face of the earth.Waiting for him to call is making me crazy, and feel unimportant.Should I just wait and when I do chat with him tell him how much this has hurt me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2006): He is simply ignoring you. It is rude what he is doing. He has not got the guts to end the relationship with you so he has chosen the coward way round, NO CONTACT. Love, pick yourself of the floor try and contact his friends or familyto make sure he is OK.(which he probably is)but for your sanity. After that, please move on with your life i.e. go out with your friends, meet new people etc... he is NOT waiting for you and please do not wait for him either. Stop pining for him sweetheart.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (17 April 2006):
 Hiya,
While moderating I came across the following in the 'questions' section. I think it belongs here so I thought I would cut and paste below so people can still see it. Can I just ask the questioner to make sure they respond in the answers bit or if you want to talk to an Agony Aunt privately then use the new mailbox feature. Sorry to sound harsh but it just makes it easier and makes sure you get the advice you need. Thanks :)
Hi Smeedle,
It's the stressed out gf with the absconding bf.
I know this sounds pathetic and even writing it sounds pathetic, I don't have any other numbers of his family and friends... Its been a long distance relationship so we haven't made our "couple friends".
I'm just really annoyed, but all i can do is wait, although I am feeling better, but hurt. Thank you so much for your advice.
Stressed Gf
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2006): Forget texting him if this guy is your boyfriend you should pick up the phone and CALL him... That way you get to know if he's alive and you can ask what the devil is going on.
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reader, chachacha +, writes (17 April 2006):
You should text him and say that as you haven't heard from his since Saturday, you are concerned in case something has happened to him, and could he please contact you to let you know he is alright.
Do you know where he is staying? You could leave a message there.
It sounds like he doesn't want to be your bf anymore and this is his not-very-grown-up way of telling you. However, he should still be respectful, and when you do hear from to let him know he is okay, you should say "look, if you don't want to go out with me anymore, please just have the courtesy to say so". Then walk away with your self esteem.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (17 April 2006):
 If you are worried something has happened to him then contact his friends and family so they can reassure you.
If you find he is ok then tell him that you are deeply hurt but to be honest it sounds like he is having a lot of fun and cannot be bothered to see you until he chooses which I would just not stand for.
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