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*lueangel28
writes:my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year,the last three months we have been having a lot of problems. he has been logging on to chatlines giving these females his phone number and then they share sexual text and pic messages back and forth i don't know what to do please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): Kick him into touch. If he's going on chatlines the women on there are usually married and getting paid for extra income and they're not bothered if some guy thinks they're serious as they can milk him for all he's got doing that. They're only playing with him so he continues to call the chatlines - tell him to get real or ditch the loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): Give him an ultimatum--no more screwing around online or you're done. It's the only thing that works. Face it, you're never going to accept it; nor should you. Find a boyfriend that isn't so easily distracted.
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reader, saucy sam  +, writes (30 December 2007):
 hey sweetie, my boyfreind of nearly 2years used to o exactly the same thing well he wouldnt give his number out or exchange pics with them but i did know that he used to cyber with them he told me once and i got so upset its not something your supposed to do if you are in a loving relationship
he used to keep going on abpout it until one day something inside me snapped and i had it out with him i told him that if he was to continue to do this then i dontthink thta there would be much point in our relationship. and he listened to me he doesnt do it although were not living together so i cannot be certain that he does, but stand up for yourself dont let him walk all over you because once he knows how he will continue to do it and i tell you something sweetie you are much better than that let me know what happens loadza luck xxxx
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reader, horsefanatik_andy  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 im going through the exact same thingjust let him know ur not ready...it would suk if he did anything to hurt youafter you let him knowhe has the choice of taking a walk or embracing the fact that ure not ready and chill with it cuz he loves youif he doesnt its better that hes gonei know its hard but its true
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reader, horsefanatik_andy +, writes (28 December 2007):
im going through the exact same thingjust let him know ur not ready...it would suk if he did anything to hurt youafter you let him knowhe has the choice of taking a walk or embracing the fact that ur not ready and chill with it cuz he loves youif he dosnt its better that hes gonei know its hard but its true
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reader, dc.ryan +, writes (27 December 2007):
 I think, some men (well a lot of men) seem to have a desire for another sexual rush - not necessarily full blown cheating, but something different.Don't take his actions to heart, as I expect you are a wonderful woman with a lot of qualities - you need to persist with your confrontations clearly express it has upset you.If he still continues, ask him what he values most - you or his phone? Ryan
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reader, blueangel28 +, writes (27 December 2007):
blueangel28 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your feedback. I have tried talking to him. this is the second time i have caught him doing this. i just don't understand why men turn to this. this same thing has happened in previous relationships is it something that i am doing to make them turn to this?
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reader, dc.ryan +, writes (27 December 2007):
Confront him, sit down and talk - ask him why he feels he has to turn to other girls for his sexual enjoyment, explain to him you feel hurt and that you want him to stop.
Don't result to shouting though, if the convisation gets out of hand - just stop, and talk about it later when things have cooled down.
You need to talk to your partner, and he needs to learn that he can talk to you about his problems. If you need any further advice, or have anything further to add drop me a message or add another reply :)
Hope this was of any help,
Ryan
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