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writes:My "boyfriend" finally admitted he was married. I had suspicions and kept at him. He had denied it many many times and called me crazy, even when confronted with evidence. My friends and family were wonderful, supportive and stuck by me. He fooled us all.When he admitted he was married, I cried, he cried. He left because I asked him to go. He keeps calling and texting, I ignore them. I don't want to break down and believe him again. I still love him. But I know I KNOW I Really really know I cannot ever be with him.We work together, and right now it's easy to disregard him because I am so hurt and angry. How can I make sure he won't or can't break down my walls of defense? People say you learn from bad experiences, but what about bitterness? What Will I learn from this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Do like I did. Shut him down completely. No if, and or buts about it. You will look back on this experience and be so grateful you did it especially when your one appears unexpectedly! The absolute best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Ok, I think if you think logically about this you will realize what a loser he is! And you will realize that you were really pretty dumb to have not listened to that inner voice and all of your suspicions. Clearly you and your family had serious questions. “He had denied it many many times and called me crazy, even when confronted with evidence.” You had evidence that he was married? That should have been enough to end it right there. Whenever someone calls you crazy in this situation you know they're lying.You need to visit someone's home and find out pretty much everything about their living environment and family BEFORE you ever start taking them seriously for a relationship. Just remember that he has to have serious problems to do this and that should be enough for you to give him the boot for good. He has nothing to offer you except more lies, lunacy and misery. Good luck.
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