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writes:I am in a relationship with a age gap. I'm 29 and he is 47. We have a 5 year old together. Our relationship and sex life have always been great. But the last while he isn't reaching climax all the time. We have sex almost every night. Sometimes he does and sometimes he can't. I know most women would love it as he can last hours and I'm not exaggerating. He always could last and have me going but would always climax. But now that he isn't all the time, I'm worried I'm not pleasing him the way I used too. Like he says it don't matter, I asked him if he still finds me attractive. He said I have a women like you in her 20s and I'm pushing 50 wit you think? Didn't actually answer. Any men on here help please. I'm I not pleasing him anymore?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 March 2018):
 This is the thing with relationships with such a big age gap, these issues come up from time to time as you are both at different stages of life.
There could be a million reasons that he is not reaching climax. I doubt it has anything to do with you personally. I mean as he said himself he is pushing 50 with a partner in her twenties. It could be his age that is slowing down his sex life now. Do you both talk it over? Are you good at communicating? If he is lasting for hours then it could be that he is taking viagra to help with his performance? Having sex every single night long term is quite rare I would imagine, especially with a five year old. Things may just be naturally slowing down and well with his age that seems normal enough.
Stop thinking that it has something to do with how you are pleasing him. Are you insecure? Do you still feel attractive? OP there is no point you taking this personally, you need to realize that your partner is hitting 50 soon and things do slow down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2018): My guess is he's taking those little blue pills and hiding it from you. I'm a woman close to his age and I've heard it before from many friends when men this age take them and last for hours. I would say he had trouble getting and maintaining erections without the help of the pills and doesn't want you to know
So many men these days are conditioning themselves to porn also and that combined with the natural changes of age is making a huge number of men unable to function with real life women without the help of medications.
I would do a bit of investigating but I seriously think that you'll find out this is exactly what is happening . Its porn, pills or likely a combination of both
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (4 March 2018):
 If you continue with questioning him, you're only added pressure. Pressure, age, physical well-being, all add to one's ability to climax. Life is full of ups and downs - literally. Just relax and enjoy each other.
Take care xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2018): You're the one who's 29, he's not! As men age, their sex-drive and testosterone-level can slightly diminish.
Weren't you prepared for the differences that come with age-gaps?
Well, welcome to the reality of life and what aging means! Who has sex every night anyway?!! You don't have to get an erection and keep one, my dear! You can wear it out and make sex boring with over-demand and repetition.
You're not 18 anymore, and you'll yourself notice some physical-changes and the challenges of gravity. His attraction to you is not measured by his climaxes! Where the heck did you get that silly notion???
Seriously?!!
Are you so naive that you don't realize that you can't expect the same performance-level each and every time?
He's a man, learn something about male-sexuality and our anatomy. A penis is an appendage, the male sex-organ; and it gets tired and desensitized when over-used. He's not a machine or a sex-toy that performs the same every-time you switch it on. He runs on human energy, not a battery!
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