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female
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30-35,
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writes:Me and my ex-boyfriend has been with each other for a year and two months. The beginning of out relationship was enjoyable, but before I know it he started being controlling and telling me what I couldn't wear around him and always accusing me of trying to have sex with his brother or his friends. I am a faithful young lady I was their for him no matter what, but about the end of august he started to change dramatically. He started to take me home, even though where me and him work at is far away from my house and that will be using up a lot an excessive amount of gas.But he always told me that the reason for him taking me home was to save gas....I guess even though we are using more by him picking me up all the way in the city. To make a long story short, one day when I had got off of work I had check his cell phone and he was texting this female talking about we should start back over. I was hurt because we have been through a lot , so I confront him about the issue and started to get mad at me and started to say , "How will you get home" I was shock because he have never acted like that to me before , than the following I ask him about the female and he explain to me that the girl gave him head and that her didn't want nothing to do with her at all.Now that was a LIE!!!!!!!!Let me keep it short, one of his manager at his job told me that the girl had came up at his job and was waiting for him in his car?????? are you serious???At that current time I was at home and I couldn't do nothing but cry. Monday came I was piss I knew that our relationship was going to end that day and it did. I bust through the door where the room him and the girl was screwing around at and told him to give my stuff. While crying my heart out , I ask him what did I do for this to happen. I had explain to him if he want this girl he can have her just leave me alone. But constantly told me that he wanted me and he love me and no female will come before me. So all I know is he mad ,because he got caught and now he won't speak to me about the issue or anything. I ask him question's about the incident and he tell me stay out of my business. He have change, but I still love him and I don't know will he ever wake up and realize I was their for him through it all.Help please..............
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): DUMP THE STUPID BOY HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU.
Please. Just do it. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): Let's look at what we know about your boyfriend.
He took you to work each day and picked you up at work to bring you home making a couple extra trips in the car each day to do so, but gave you the excuse he was saving gas.
He criticizes you about what you wear and controls a simple thing like what you are wearing.
He accuses you falsely of having sex with his brother when he in fact is the one that is cheating.
He lies to you. He gives you excuses instead if being honest and working on the problems and giving you what you need.
All this is him trying to control you, he keeps you off balance by giving excuses, he lies to cover his tracks, he picks you up to control where you are at any given time so he can cheat with other women and not get caught.
He has now discarded you and made this your fault by telling you to stay out of his business and denying that he has anything going on with this girl and he loves you, blah, blah.
Google Abusive Relationships, or are you in an abusive relationship and I you will find that you are.
You need to stay out of this relationship now that you are out, because a man like this will only increase his control and he could become physically violent when cornered and found out by you, or just when he wants to beat you down. He already has lowered your self confidence otherwise you would see him for the monster he is. You don't love this man, he doesn't love you.
You are beaten down emotionally from what has happened and you fear being on your own to deal with all your feelings about it.
Go to your family and stay with them for awhile, be with your closest friends and ask them to help you get through with this. If he tries to get you back and starts stalking you, file a restraining order, that way if he comes near you you can have him arrested.
He needs to know you are serious, it is over between the two of you. I am serious, you are in danger here.
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