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writes: I have been dating a man for almost 2 years we live about 1 hour and 30 minutes apart . We both had previous failed marriages resulting in children and we are having some issues with the kids. I don't know if we want the same things and feel frustrated.Do I stick it out and see what happens? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2006): explain how you feel see if he feels the same try your hardest to keep the kids of your hands and see how that works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2005): Ok have you already got children, or are you pregnant or has children not even come on the scene yet. If this is the third option you have no reason to be asking. But assuming you have children or are shortly going to be having children you need to talk about it rather than wait and see. Disscuss how you would handle situatoins and if you handle them differently don't tell your boyfriend not to do his way and force him to do your way, comprimise. I am not saying aither of you will/are bad parents but sometime parenting books can help, if you read a way to handle your children together then you can both try your hardest to keep to that method and eevryone will be happy. But don't force him to do a certain way you have both got to agree on it. I would say that you should make sure you a saying the same things becuase otherwise things can go horribly wrong.
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reader, el +, writes (24 August 2005):
Hiya! If i were you, i would talk to him and say that you think you should either go on a break for a while so you can sort your own issues out or just finish it completely...after all you don't want to hang around and be the one who gets dumped because then you'll be left feeling depressed and upset and will then be landed with another question...what do i do now!?
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reader, roni24  +, writes (24 August 2005):
 its always a tough one this i went through a similer thing with my husband when we moved in together we tended to clsh on almost everything but i found the best way to deal with this is to talk to your partner about what is concerning you do it at a time when the two of you are alone and not getting wound up by the kids dont be confrontational about it as this will put his guard up.talk throught the issues and come to some compromises this may take a while but if he is init for the long haul he should be willing to listen but must also listen to his ideas and fears he may have it worked for my husband and me. i wish u luck
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reader, Scoops +, writes (24 August 2005):
Dont let your kids ruin what it is you have with your partner.Sounds like communication may be the key here, talk to him and i am sure that if he realises that you may split up he will do anything to keep you, but you really need to air your fears with him, untill then it is always going to be playing on your mind.
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