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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 and a half months and we're really close, closer than i've ever been to anybody. The thing is that I want to have sex, but he doesn't. the other thing is that we're both virgins! i understand where he comes from by saying we should wait, but i dont want to wait sometimes. i dont know why, it's just me. i constantly talk about sex, and i've asked "the" question, and we have tons and tons of oral sex, but when we're so close to the real thing, he backs away. he says he doesnt mind me asking or talking about sex. please read it and just shed advice. please?
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reader, Artistry +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Hi there, Thanks for taking our advice, we try to help. Take it slow if you can, you will understand why later.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much, both of you. i will do as you say. i will talk to him today. thank you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Artistry, is perfectly right. You must listen to your boyfriend there's no need to hurry. Talk to him about how you feel and listen to what he has to say.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (14 July 2008):
Hi, You have a boyfriend, who is trying to wait until you are both older. I do not know for sure his age, but if he is your age or close to it, there should not be any knid of legal ramification. You have to answer that one. but he seems to want the two of you to wait until you are both older, which I think is great, he mature for his age. One of the reasons could be that once you have sex, you will probably want to have more, and you will have to worry about pregnancy, that is a responsibility he might want to avoid, just because of what could happen. You should probably think about it too. It's not just a matter of having sex, your emotions get completely tied up and
you both are very young, it seems. You are already having oral sex, and I think that he feels that is safe. Take your time, he could also not want to be the first one in your life, and this is complicted, he does and he doesn't, because the first time you have actual physical intercourse, as a virgin, there will be some physical pain for the woman, which goes away in time. You should also ask him, why he does not want to have sex, and listen to his reasons, without pressuring him to do something that he does not want to do now. I must say, you have a very nice person as a boyfriend, most young men would be clamoring to have sex, you would not have to say you want it twice. You should be happy that he is trying to wait until you both are older. So talk to him and try to see his side, and control your hormones, you will enter another world, which brings additional responsibilites, once you engage in intercourse, and it throws you into an adult world pretty fast. Enjoy your dsys of youthful carefreeness, as long as you can, Take care and let us know how you are doing. Good luck to you always.
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