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anonymous
writes:Tomorrow is my birthday, which is a sunday. I had previously hinted to him that I'd rather go out on saturday night instead of my actual birthday. At the time he encouraged me to go out with my other friends, and was vague about whether he wanted to come as well. Today (saturday) I texted him about getting together this evening and he informed me he'd made plans to go out with his buddies ahead of time. I don't understand why he did not inform me of this before, and got my hopes up I would be spending the evening with him.Am I being petty? It's not technically my birthday and I don't want to seem crazy and controlling. But I can't help but feel I should have come before his friends this weekend. Any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): Happy Birthday doll!
Yes, spell it out. Us guys dont take hints well usually we need to hear "Please take me out saturday" as this is clear communication and direct. Had he felt a direct line of thought from you chances are he would not have made plans with his homies. At least I know I wouldnt have cause my lady always comes first hehe ;)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Agreed with Ampersand, you most definitely have to spell it out for guys. They don't pick up on signals, hints, and some fail to listen or forget.
Or he could be using that as a cover and planning a surprise birthday get together. How cute. It would be nice, wouldn't it but some guys aren't that creative. He thought it was ok to go out with his friends since your birthday is tomorrow. Well, since the failed communication on your part, lesson learned that you need to be forward next time.
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