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writes: Me and boyfriend who are a young couple are coming up to our 2year anniversary.We live together and have done so for the last year although when I first met him he was a full time cricketer which I really liked as he was very carefree, had alot of time on his hands which resulted in us spending alot of quality time together.NOW he is slowly slowly taking over his fathers business and has been working 60hr weeks which has resulted in us spending less and less time together.We love each other very much and I look at him as being one of my bestest friends and we do one day hope to get married and have children, although I do have my fears....I cannot see him ever stopping from working 6 x days, 60hr weeks anytime soon and at the moment he is always sooooo tired and feeling run down. I feel in a way that it is affecting our relationship as we find little time to spend quality time together and the time that we do spend together is because we live together, which is what I said to him that I never wanted our relationship to ever get to that.And lately I have always been taking note that we only have sex once per week, I dont think this is normal do you?I know he loves me very much and does not want to lose me, but I am at that stage in our relationship where I thought our sex would/should be electrying and the older we get, I dont want sex to become even less frequent.He promises me the world and a very comfortable future together, but am I going to start feeling like his work is his life, and my life may be left looking after our kids on my own (should we have any) and that we will never get quality time to spend together til we are in our 50's like his parents?We do occasionly casually smoke majuana with friends say once a week, do you think that this mixed in with too much work, and other reasons why our sex life is not very frequent and how do you think we can save our relationship if you think we should?All answers would be much appreciated.
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reader, Katylouise +, writes (12 October 2006):
I think your relationship has the potential to be saved but he needs to cut down those hours at work and you need to be the one to tell himto do that not just for your relationship but think of his health aswell 60hour weeks is a dreadful amount of time to be spending at work. The only way your relationship can be saved from doom is by communicating with one another. I suggest you mention it asap and be honest with him without getting angry and argument would not be a good idea in this case.
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