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writes: im 18 and my boyfriend is 23. He got deported back to South Africa. He left in March. We were both in love and he is my first love and I'm his but now he doesnt answer my calls or texts. He said he will never leave me - I dont know what to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): well kerri i think that you should move on because i am sure that you have are pretty and have plenty of people that have there eye on you,(you have your eyes on them)e.g (Carmelo). Go for them and if he hasnt called you by then, then you no for sure that hes moved on. If your still curious then you can always check him up and go and pay a visit.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (21 August 2006):
 My dear there could be a genuine explanation for this, what if he had his phone stolen or he lost it in transit? Obviously I dont know, but I want you to at least see that there may be a genuine reason why he has not got in contact with you and why he wont answer your calls. If it is the case that he is just not answering then allow yoursef some time to adjust and move on, you deserve to have a happy life, so dont stay stuck in the past, what you did have was great, so cherish that, but if the 2 of you cant be together anymore, you wil be ok in time. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): I understand this is very upsetting for you and you feel hurt.
However, think about this: he was deported, so he's obviously not going to be returning to the U.S. (assuming you live here). It would be very expensive for you to take a trip to South Africa, and not advisable because you don't know anything about his living situation.
Not only that, but he did something against the law. You don't get deported for doing nothing wrong, you know?!
Finally, he was deported in March. Six months ago. It is clear that he HAS left you emotionally, most likely because he feels that given the circumstances, there's no future in your relationship.
What should you do? Accept that it is over, and go on with your life. Once you come to terms with the fact that it IS now finished, you won't feel such anguish. You're only 18, plenty of fish in the sea (men) who would be better!
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