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writes:I have been bestfriends with this girl 'Jenna' for about 4 years now. We used to be really close. Lately, Jenna has been totally weird. She started acting really slutty in school, and wearing all this black makeup, totally out of the normal. And then she started telling me and pretty much anyone that would listen that she tried to cut herself and needed a shrink. But then when i asked her one day at a sleepover, when her mom was in the room next to the one we were in what her shrinks name was, she said she didnt have one, and had no 'clue' what i was talking about. Anyways, I invited Jenna to come with me to this camp for my church in a different State. She was like totally yes, and was excited because it would make our relationship better (we have had a lot of fighting) today Jenna IMED me and told me that she wasnt going to come with me to the camp. Of course i was like why? and she made this huge fit about my church being not her religion , and she didnt want to go because she would have an awful time with me. Now this is 3 days before we go. And yesterday and the day before that, and the week before that, she was dying to go, she was so excited. Jenna even had the guts to tell me her mother thought my church was some kind of cult. and her grandmother said that she shouldnt even be hanging out with me. - i was so hurt, ya know? i mean she has been a total bitch to me. i realized that Jenna isnt really my friend she never has. The friendship was always one sided. I did everything, every little thing Jenna asked me to do. i helped her, and did everything. Yet she hasnt done one thing for me. I asked her to come with me to this camp thing with my church, because i had noone i knew coming, and i didnt want to be alone, and feel left out. and she said she would come. Yet she totally just blew me off. So i said screw you , and ended the friendship. shes not worth it, she is a backstabbing bitch. she couldnt keep my secrets, she talked about me behind my back, she lied and made up things for people to feel sympathy for her. If she just made my life more miserable, why do i feel so awful for standing up for myself, and not being her friend anymore? Do you think it was a right thing for me to just end the friendship alltogether?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): OMG this recently happened to me and the worst part it as over spring break. I have no idea y I felt tht way too for a while like a few hours so I thought about all the good and bad times we had turn out we had a lot of both . But I realized that she was really mad at me because apparently wen she wanted me to tell the truth and I always did she would be fuckin pisted off at me but here's the thing at the end she would always say that she knew tht she had a problem of that but guess wat she lied
A real friend would keep your secrets, never do a rain check unless it waz reasonable like someone deid or would rather hangout with a relative she haven teen with in a long time,always have your back and if all those things just don't add up forget about wat u guys had I mean y should u feel bad
1) I wasn't your fault
2) u had your reasons of why
3) u dont wanna hang out with a backstabbing bitch
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2013): OMG this recently happened to me and the worst part it was over spring break. I have no idea y I felt tht way too for a while like a few hours so I thought about all the good and bad times we had turn out we had a lot of both . But I realized that she was really mad at me because apparently wen she wanted me to tell the truth and I always did she would be fuckin pisted off at me but here's the thing at the end she would always say that she knew that she had a problem of that but guess wat she lied A real friend would keep your secrets, never do a rain check unless it waz reasonable like someone deid or would rather hangout with a relative she haven been with in a long time,always have your back and if all those things just don't add up forget about wat u guys had I mean y should u feel bad 1) I wasn't your fault2) u had your reasons of why 3) u dont wanna hang out with a backstabbing bitch
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reader, xxhatexxlovexx +, writes (3 July 2008):
xxhatexxlovexx is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you all so much! i really appreciate you helpingme out!3
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (2 July 2008):
For someone to change and go into a cycle of self-destruction like that there has to be a reason.
I think something bad may be happening to your friend, and all this strange behaviour is part of that. When you are in a situation and you don't feel you can talk about it because it's too hard... you are going to try and push the people that know you and care about you away. Other wise they are going to start asking questions about what's going on.
I think your friend is pushing you away, saying hurtful things to you, and she's doing it to protect herself. Maybe she thinks if she opened up to you about what was really wrong, you would reject her and that would hurt her too much, so she's ending it now instead.
Talk to her and really try to find out if something is wrong. She might need your friendship more than ever right now, even if she doesn't realise it herself.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): I know exactly what you're going through.
I also had a best friend who suddenly started being slutty and telling the same things your friend told you. I call what she became an emo, because that's exactly how she acted (she whined, whored herself, whined even more, backstabbed me many times, stubborn, etc.) I tried to be understanding. I tried to be patient. I tried to help her out... it never worked. She went into a whirlwind spiral and I tried helplessly to save her.
Those people who might say "support her" "be with her" "probably she's going in some serious problem", well, I don't know if you really know how hard this is to do or if this will actually help. I did everything to try and find out why she suddenly changed and why she kept on doing the things she did. I was the greatest friend for her, but she still never changed.
The only reason why I stopped was because she moved out of state and I haven't heard from her again. This whole experience still really hurts me now and I still can't get over the feeling that I didn't do enough
I hope this same thing does not happen with you and your friend and you can ammend the relationship. I hope this works for you, so please stay with her, be a great friend and hopefully she'll see this and will change. And if you're unable to change her into something better, just don't blame yourself.
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