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writes:Last week, my friend came out to me and told me that he's been seeing my last ex girlfriend for the last month which I saw coming.I've told him exactly how I feel, that I can't say I'm happy for them, because I thought it was an unwritten rule to not stir your friends (best friend especially) porridge.. not get with their ex's.I'm being made to feel I'm in the wrong by my friend, he says he doesn't see why I'm so moody about it and why I'm so against it.I don't have feelings for her anymore, but the thought of them together makes me feel ill, which even I don't understand, maybe it's jealousy because they connect a lot better then me and her ever did. Even when we were together they got on with each other a lot better, I became the spare idiot.Anyway, I feel that I can't ignore their texts and phone calls anymore, but I can't get used to the fact that they're together, what should I do? I feel like I'm in the wrong? I feel I'm becoming too dependent on my girlfriend and she doesn't deserve that, these are my issues.Thanks a bunch too anyone who answers x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 If your present perspective is making you unhappy , then you need to see this issue from another perspective.
Everyone has a right to choose who they want as the g/f or b/f. We have to respect others if we want others to respect us.
You were not compatible with each other and it is not about you being bad or inferior. Maybe, at this early stage, we cannot say for sure that they will be the same after somewhere down the road.
Your friend should be sensitive to your feelings. If he does not, then you will need to have new friends or keep your distance from this friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): the only thing you can do is forget about it because theres nothing you can do to break them up...and your not in the wrong he is..you have a right to feel how you do.ask yourself if you really dont have feelings for her because if you didnt you wouldnt care like you do..i mean dont ruin your frendship though cuz its bros over hoes lmao
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2010): that the best friend rule (dont date my ex) but if he doesn't know, that its wrong. If he appoligize and tell u he got strong feeling for her i would understand and let it go but if he doesn't get the concept of it how does that make u feel without saying sorry to you i would find a better bf.
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