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writes:OK I'm in a fix! My very best friend is a guy. We're very close and he tells me a lot of 'things'. Well, my friend, lets call him M, has a girlfriend named N. Being a country of racial differences, his mom opposes. He says she's very understanding and loving, but there's two snags, his mom's dislike and that she's not prettyyaah JERK. Well, since recently, he's been going out with another girl L, having told her he has broken up with N, whom I know from school. In his words, she is pretty, but very much naggy. So now, in short, he's cheating both of them. Well, you can say that it's not my problem, but this guy is like a brother to me and it really troubles me that he's playing around in this cheap way. Isn't there ANYTHING I can do? (I've already made it firm that I don't approve of his behaviour. He says 'yes, I know what Im doing is wrong' but takes no action whatsoever)
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (27 September 2009):
 I am afraid you have done all you can in telling your friend his behaviour is wrong. He has chosen to not listen to you and you need to leave him to it then.
I am a firm believer what goes around comes around -in short -karma.
He may be behaving like a jerk cheating two girls but in time he will have to pay for the pain he is causing.
You did the right thing by advising him.
Hope this answers your question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): You did what you can. You told him you dont approve of his behaviour. The rest is up to him. There is nothing else you SHOULD do, because it would be meddling in what is not your business. He needs to learn from his own mistakes. And the girls he is dating need to learn from their own mistakes too (the mistake of trusting your friend).
If you still want to be his friend after he has shown you what he is made out of is up to you, but you can not try to control his life or interfere.
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