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writes:This is absolutely killing me. I know, I know, I am out of my mind to be posting someone else's business on here but I am kind of involved and just plain worried. I'm 16, and my best friend is 18. She's just like me, we're so alike and we can relate each other to everything. We always hang out and she's the only person I share my secrets with. I'm worried for her. Since summer we've been best friends and I've dated one guy since we both met. Since we broke up, I've been talking to someone I used to talk to. Not her. She's dated so many guys that she met off of social networking sites, and I FEEL LIKE IT'S MY FAULT. I directed her to the sites somewhat jokingly to "meet" someone but she took it literally and met over ten guys in the past few months. They all end up screwing her over and she comes crying to me, and then meets a new guy. That's not the bad part... she recently met this guy at the mall (though she met him online, I was with her when she physically met him.) He's 21, and he's CREEPY. She doesn't take notice of how strange this man is. He constantly calls her and texts her telling her he loves her despite only meeting her once for two hours. He never leaves her alone and her parents don't know about him and she told me once that she was "scared" he would come to her house but as far as I know he doesn't even know what town we live in. Anyway, he asked her out and she said yes. So they date. A guy I used to talk to suddenly pops up in her life. Guess what? He asks her out. She says yes. So THEY date. Now she has two boyfriends and leads a double life. I feel like I'm responsible for it, and I try to convince her to be truthful to at least one of them, but she shrugs it off and says it doesn't matter. I don't want her to get hurt, and I really don't want either of the guys to get hurt, but this is kind of worrying me. These things could get her mixed up in trouble and I'd rather that not happen. She just won't listen. Am I right to be worried about this, or should I just let it go? I'm not nosy, just a worried best friend that is trying to do the best she can to keep her best friend safe. And I do admit that I believe she is wrong in doing this... she knows I hate "cheaters" and she claims to also hate them, yet she does it herself.
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reader, KjS  +, writes (16 April 2011):
 You are right to be worried..I know I would be.. And your friend needs to stop this before it gets out of hand. She needs to either choose one or dump them both. Cheating and leading a double life is not good. You need to make your friend listen.. Maybe get some other friends to talk to her as well.. Or you could go one step further.. Tell her parents that you are worried about her, but not tell them the real reason.. Maybe tell them that she's been acting strange or something.. And they'll probably have a word with her.. She cannot keep doing this and You were right to post this on here.. It is not your fault for a second.. It is your friend's fault for taking it literally!!
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