My best friend has a girlfriend, but I love him, too

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

right i reli dnt no what to do.. i am in love.. right the story is i have known this boy all of my life and we have always clicked and got on really well, about 3 years ago, we both liked each other but always seemed to deny it for some reason, so because we were always denying it we started to believe we were just friends ourselfs, because this went on for so long, it turned to love and we both loved each other but nothin ever happened. i always used to push him away because i had no experience and i didnt want to seem like a freak, and also i didnt want to ruin the friendship we hade made. after a few months we just used to be friends even though we both knew we felt more than friendship. anyway later on he got a girlfriend who he was with for months. he still used to talk to me and tell me ow much he liked me, but his gf was so jealous of how close we were and how much time we spent together and used to tel him tht he wasnt allowed to speak to me. and there was a huge fling between us when they were together but nothing every happened was just our feelings taking control. i stopped seeing him as much when i met new people as i was always with them and i thought i had got over him, but he went in the army last month and only now do i realise how much i love him, i cant go a day without thinking of him and i miss him so much.. but theres a downside.. he has s gf and now i just dont know what to do. i cant talk to him about it because i dont want to ruin his realtionship like i did before, but i dont know what else i can do? sorry about the lenght but please help me..

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