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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2013): If she's really your best friend/sister then she wouldn't flirt with your bf I mean what kind of friend does that whether best or not tell her how you feel I'm in the same situation my best friend likes my bf too but she knows I love him and care for him so she doesn't do anything that might make me think she's trying to steal him she had a emotional brake down a couple of days ago and even though I was angry inside because it seemed like she was just trying to draw his attention I still comforted her so maybe u shud think of giving her ur unwanted attention 2 her like she's giving unwanted attention to ur bf he is yours after all and I don't think she being much of a friend 2 u by flirting with him its just wrong of her
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reader, 4kayleigh4  +, writes (23 April 2013):
I know that you feel very strange right now but remember consider your friends feelings. I once liked my best friends boyfriend and we got along very well and my friend told me that she felt uncomfortable with my actions around him so even though I liked him I put my friend first and stopped flirting so if your friend is really your friend tell her how you feel and if she is anything like me she will understand
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reader, xELLIEx1998  +, writes (5 February 2011):
I think you should talk to your friend about how your feeling and if they are a good friend then they will understand that you don't like it and will back off because he is your boyfriend afterall and nobody should be able to take that away from you. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): heyy i have the same problem as you.... i love my boyfriend soooooo much but he always flurts with other people.......he told me today that my bestfriend likes him idk why he told me that but he did.it hurt me really bad i dont even like it when she talks to me anymore and when she does she ALWAYS talks about Blake.......i love him but idk if it is going to last.... :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): In a situation like this you should go to your BF and let him know what's going on and how you feel about it. Then let him handle it with her. He needs to be perfectly clear with her (in a nice way) that he is seeing you, he is not interested in her and that her flirting makes him uncomfortable. The reason I say this is that (1) He is the recipient of her advances, and (2) You do not need to be put in the awkward position of confronting your friend. They only thing that will really get her to stop is when the object of her desire rebuffs her. This is what I would tell my daughter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010): ok im only 13 but by friend realylike my boy friend i think you should sit down and talk to her about it because its not worth loseing what u have and then have nothing at all
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): ok so just talk to both of them together in the same room and sit them together and just talk to your friend first and just say that you have noticed that she has been flirting with your boyfriend, and that it puts you in a uncomfortable position. then talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you noticed that when she flirts with you that you just feed the fire, and that you just encourage her and that its disturbing and that its like right in front of you and that she might not have realized that she is doing it, but she is and its making him pay more attention to her and not you so... yeah, good luck
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reader, Koolkelly  +, writes (31 May 2010):
Honey bunch, you should talk to your maan ! And see who he likes more! And if he likes your friend more poop on his porch and set it on fire and go give his best friend a blow job !!!!! Niceee this actuLly works did it with several guys notta slut kaaycbye
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reader, horsecrazyhh +, writes (8 March 2010):
I have the same problem but a couple of my "sisters" like my boyfriend and one in particular has liked him since fifth grade and I have only liked him for two months... So heres what I did: I told them that I really care and love him and I'm really sorry but he's MY boyfriend and I told all my friends who flirt with him i don't appreciate them flirting with him right in front of me and they tried to stop flirting with him. If I were you I would just state the facts and opinions to your BFF that you have.:) hope that helped :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): Hey, I have a boyfriend and my best friend ever likes him a lot she's always flirting with him. What you should do is talk to your boyfriend and try to stay away from her the best he can. And if you want you could tell your best friend what you think and hope for the best you'll stay BFF. Good luck, hope I helped. Anonymous.
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reader, Cheerleadercharl +, writes (6 April 2009):
Well i have the same problem so this is what i did she still likes him but doesnt flirt with him.Well i went up to my boyfriend and asked him if he felt the same way.Then i told my boyfriend to go and tell my friend the way he felt about her and that he doesnt like hher and now my friend doesnt flirt with him.She keeps her distance even though she still likes him.I now spend a lot more time with my boyfriend try it it worked for me
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): You need to be there for your friend and your boyfriend at the same time. I have the same problem. Just split them up. Do activities that are not in front of your friend with your boyfriend. Go out to dinner or the movies. Tell your friend, nicely, that this is not accepltable and it is hurting you. It needs to stop and it is wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I would talk to her considering your close to each other maybe it would be better asking her about it then see what will go from there, sorry not very good advice really my best friend is all flirty with my boyfriend too, i hate it and feel left out and jelous but i dont do anything about it, you can. Good luck
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reader, queenette  +, writes (30 March 2008):
i think u just ve to let her know how u feel about the drama always taking place between her and ur boyfriend.if u keep bottling this up,pretending that you are comfortable with it,she would just go on and on with and cause you some depression.To think of it,she may not even be aware of the fact that you dislike her doing that.fortune you know favours the bold
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): i think u just ve to let her know how u feel about the drama always taking place between her and ur boyfriend.if u keep bottling this up,pretending that you are comfortable with it,she would just go on and on with and cause you some depression.To think of it,she may not even be aware of the fact that you dislike her doing that.fortune you know favours the bold
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): yeah i know how you feel! you guys should talk first to you Bf and ask him what he has to say about all of this. then a calm confrontaon woked for me!!! best of luck to you both
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reader, supersarah89 +, writes (24 November 2007):
hey hold in there girl...I feel the same way i have a cute boyfriend and i love him so much and my best friend knows that but she still flirts with him and it really hurts but i dont know what to do because i dont want to say anything to him or my best friend, because i dont want to loose either of them but i do want them to stop.....even if im sitting next to him she willl come over and push us away from eachother and sit next to him!!!i need help too!!!!! I think we should stick it out for a while but if she keeps doing it i willl say something but in a nice way and if she still does i am oing to telll her STOP ..... and i hope it works...I wish you goood luck~Sarah S.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): I am going thru the same thing with my boyfriend... we share the same bestfriend and she like a sister to me, and she has known my boyfriend longer than me.. but when i noticed the flirting and what not i told him that it made me uncomfortable to watch them flirt.. and listen to her talk about him all the time.. and he did distance himself from her but she continued to try and get close to him, and i am a very quiet person so i never said anything after that... then she like tried to make a move on him and i straight up told her to back off.. and i explained that it had been bothering me... and she realized and stopped...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): well... i totally think you should let him know you feel 'comfortable' about him being around other people, so let him know he has his own space, and then he'll feel comfortable around you...
... and try going out with him to places or events that only you two... or at least he has interests in, but that your friend does not, so it seems like your relationship with him is stronger, sharing more interests, and with him realising that you share more links than he does with your other friend ^^
xx
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reader, bby_gal06 +, writes (28 October 2006):
 hiya i think you should talk to your friend and tell her how you feel about this situation i think that your friend will understand if you tell her, also i think you should tell your boyfriend how you feel about him flirting with your friend but is she is a true friend then she will stop when you request it if she carries on she is doing it to hurt you so ditch her.
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reader, Lemonpixie +, writes (28 October 2006):
 Some best friend. Girly you need to stop them in their tracks... has she done this with multiple boys, or is the first boy youve dated? Because it will continue... she may not even like him really she just wants to 'one up' you. It's common with best friends sometimes they get competitive. Approach her and say you feel really uncomfortable with the situation. Also tell him its not acceptable that he is letting her flirt with him... tell him to make it clear to her he's with you and wants you...
If they continue I suggest finding better people to surround yourself with you deserve that much at least
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reader, DEBS83 +, writes (28 October 2006):
 you need to talk to ure friend tell her that her flirting with him isnt nice for you to see you and tht u fleel hurt by this and you want her to stop also talk to ure boyfriend good luck
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