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writes:How do i get this guy off my mind?I have been working at it for the past year now without success. I have a bf and he is the sweetest and most loving person i have ever known. I was very much inlove with him until i met this new guy, Jason.Jason and i have so much in common, we connect in everyway possible, just cant stay away from each other and i know he has feelings for me.I decided to end my previous relationship so we could be together but he asked out after discovering that he knows my bf and wouldnt want to hurt him. The sad thing is i cant get him off my mind. My bf loves me a lot and is every woman´s dream man and i decided to stick with him. However, memories of my time with Jason make me doubt my conviction that my bf is really my life partner. By the way, Jason has a gf now though he didnot tell me about it.How do i get Jason off my mind? I want to talk with him everyday, hear his sexy voice and exchange ideas like we used to do. I crave it like an addict does drugs but i know i am not the center of Jasons life.I got a man who loves me sincerely and that i appreciate a lot. I believe we could get things back together like they where before Jason came into my life; that is, if i cant get him off my mind.My boyfriend proposed to me for the third time and i accepted but i feel guilty and unhappy..I can only get peace when i forget him for good. Please i need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): This sounds like a sexual thing. Go ahead, sleep with Jason but do not expect to keep your bf after that. Maybe that will give you the answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): I suggest you talk to Jason again about your feelings but do not have any expectations. Tell your bf about how you feel so that you can settle this as a couple. if you intend getting married, then you need to be more open to each other. Discuss the things you love and try to do them with him. That way, you will avoid contact with any future Jasons who appear to patch up the little holes in your cap.
Save your relationship by getting a solution together with your bf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Get a grip on yourself. Jason is not worth the agony you are going through. He is happy where he is and does not need your friendship either. So stay clear of him. Avoid every contact with him and think of beautiful things or people like your boyfriend. Go back down memory lane and pick out all those exciting things that made you fall for your bf in the first place. Let them run through your mind. If the love is not rekindled,then, return the engagemnet ring because this implies you got no real love for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): girl, you are cheating on your bf just by entertaining such thoughts. Just go ahead and have your way with Jason and go your seperate ways. It might be just a sexual thing. After, you will discover he is not all that wonderful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Confusion, boredom, imcompatibility are things you should handle with care in a relationship. In your case, look deep inside and be honest to yourself. This guy, jason is no good. Do not throw a good thing away because you think the other is prettier. Not all that glitters is gold.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Why did you accept the proposal when you clearly have th ehots for someone else. Not once did you mention you love your bf. It was all about his feelings for you.This Jason guy has no true feelings for you. Proof: he has fun playing with you when he has a girlfriend;he will do everything possible to win you if he thought you were worth the trouble.Forget the guy, he is just a player. Think again if you want to marry your bf. If yes,then try to love him despite his faults and quit looking for greener pastures where there aren´t any.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Jason does not care that much about you else he would not be dating another girl. If he cared he would not have asked out when you decided to end your relationship.I think the whole thing was just a fling for him.Do more stuff with your boyfriend, talk to him, go out more often, spice up your relationship because boredom is equal to idleness and an idle mind is the devil´s workshop.Bottom line, get your bf to do different stuff with you.. if you know what i mean..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): Thank you for the answers. I appreciate it a lot.
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reader, rom  +, writes (16 August 2009):
Personally I think that you need to have a good long think about whether your bf is the right person for you. If you are having feelings for this jason then I would say he is not the right man for you and in years to come should you decide to marry him it could all end in tears for both of you.
Just because he is every other womans dream man doesnt mean he is yours.
Even if you and jason never get together as he has moved on i still think that your bf is not the right person for you. Dont settle for second best, especially at the begining of your relationship. getting engaged is one thing but do not marry until you know for definate that you are in lov with your bf with all your heart and there is nobody else for you.
hope this helps.
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reader, sammy415  +, writes (16 August 2009):
Sounds like your a little bored with your boyfriend. I think maybe you just have a really big crush on this Jason guy. I have gone through this before, and in the end i found out the hard way the grass was NOT greener on the other side. I was just bored in my relationship. Maybe you miss that spark you get out of being with a new boyfriend. You just need some kinda of closure with Jason. Have you let the jason guy know that you still have these feelings? If he doesnt have them to then i would try to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Get a grip on yourself! Are you inlove with this Jason or your bf? That is something you need to decide on. Give me an answer to this and i´ll get on with this answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): If you want to be truthful to yourself, you should not accept your boyfriend's proposal until you have cleared your mind off him. Don't be afraid to say "no" as long as it's before marriage, at least you don't have to suffer those guilty moments in this late hour.I guess Jason just came into your life, making your life more enticing and perhaps he is fresh in your life so you tends to click better with him. You should cut off all contacts of Jason and soon time will heals everything and very soon you will not remember him that much.
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