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*achel568
writes:my boyfriend of 4 years has a secret female body builder fetish. i found out when he left a website open on a computer in our house. i confronted him immediately since it made me really uncomfortable and made me question our relationship and his attraction to me. i am really really skinny. the complete opposite of a fbb. i also saw (when i looked at the history he had not cleared) that he has been looking at a lot of pics and videos of women with un naturally huge breasts. which is also the complete opposite of myself.he says that it doesn't mean anything. that he doesn't look at them in a sexual way but only out of habit. i don't believe him though. our sex life has been really difficult ever since we first started dating. sometimes going weeks without having sex (because of his lack of interest, not mine). i feel like there must be a connection to his fetish and our lack of sex. and the idea of him looking at people who are so different from me makes me question our whole relationship. why he would choose to commit to someone that is so far from what he (as far as i can tell from his internet searches) finds attractive. has anyone else found themself in a similar situation?i haven't really found any information or support anywhere online. i just need someone to talk to about it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 April 2012):
 I can see why you would feel worried and paranoid, I would feel the same way if it was my boyfriend. But I guess it is you that needs to make this decision weather to stay with him or not. It can be hard to deal with this. But he might be right, he might just look at these photos as it is something that interests him, its like when men watch porn. You say you are opposite to these girls so maybe he is just looking at what he does not have. It does not mean that he does not find you attractive. However if he is not interested in sex with you much then yes I would question this. You need to sit down and talk to him and tell him your worries and see how he reacts. Tell him he needs to start showing that he is interested in you or else you are not going to feel secure in this relationship.
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