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writes:I would really like a guys opinion on this too. Ive being in a relationship with this guy for nearly 5 months. He has just recently committed himself to this relationship and I am pleased that he finally has as it took some getting there.He is 7 year older than me and I am 19. The thing is he isnt good at showing his feelings and never opens up to me, unless he has had a few drinks. He doesnt feel like my best friend like I have had with my 2 past bfs. He has only recently started telling me he 'loves me' but its just through a text and sometimes he tells me he 'misses me'. The other day when I was a bit down and upset about something I just wanted a hug off him and say 'dont worry about it'. I know he does love me but he doesnt seem to be very good showing his emotions or feelings or that if he doesnt see me for days it doesnt seem like he misses me as he never says it.Do I need to say things first to him to get him to show his feelings more? Btw I am not a needy or clingy person in a relationship.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 In my experience I'll be there, is better than 100 I love you's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): Everyone is different. Does he show you that he cares for you by his actions? Does he make you feel special, wanted and cherished.
There are guys who say they love a girl but dont show it in their actions and how they are with them. I know which I would prefer. Sometimes its a case of you cant have it all....
DSome guys find it hard to say these three words. Maybe you could try telling him that you love spending time with him and see how he reacts, take it slowly and see how he responds. Be kind to him and create an environment which helps him open up to his emotions. You could also write him little notes with love hearts and kisses if you find it hard to make the first move....
Some guys are brought up not to show their emotions. He may be like his father who doesnt show emotions openly and this has been his role model. Talk to him about his past and see if there are any clues there.
Its lovely to have a guy who constantly tells you he loves you but the most important thing is how he shows you.....
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