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writes:I am 26 years old with 2 children from previous abusive and abandoning relationships. I have recently got back in touch with my 1st cousin. Someone I use to be very close to. We loved each other and cared so much for each other during our younger days. We have discussed it and we believe GOD has brung us back together because we are soulmates. We have spent so much time discussing if we are sure and we are. We just do not know how to inform our families we are going to be together. We eventually want to get married. And before someone comes on here talking about how this is a sin. Please reread your Bible leviticus especially. Only sin is your parents their brothers or sisters your brother or sister or step mother or step brother or sister and grandchildren. And the chance of birth defects are only 2% greater than a couple who are total strangers. WE ARE IN LOVE WHO CAN GIVE US SOME REAL ADVICE!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): Let me help you out here, I know how it feels to get attacked by tottal strangers saying ohh thats wrong blah blah blah.
IM married to my first cousin. Can you people stop being so judgmental for once. Its not wrong befor you say anything to hurt this womans feelings research it. Maybe God did sent her to her cousin, Put yourself in her shoes before you start preaching to her. How would you know if god did or didnt, he does amazing things. Listen just tell your families. They will either except you or not. My mom loves me but dosnt like me being with my cousin and hasnt for 30 years! But his dad says you cant help who you love and supports us! Go for what makes you happy Im on your side:)
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (7 October 2010):
 this is ridiculous, I honestly know that cousins do fall in love sometimes and crazily enough that's not the ridiculous part I'm referring to. The crazy part is that you think that GOD brought you together, did he drive you to his place and said "here you are, you are to be with your cousin now?" seriously, that is something YOU made up to justify your feelings for your cousin.
By the way, lets pretend your kids have kids someday, one has a girl and one has a boy...would you honestly be COMPLETELY okay with that girl and that boy, being cousins, getting married?
Is it a sin to marry a cousin? The Bible does not specifically forbid it, but it's important to remember that many laws do condemn this type of marriage and Christians are commanded to "Submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord's sake: whether it be to the king, as supreme; Or unto governors, as unto them that are sent by him for the punishment of evildoers, and for the praise of them that do well. For so is the will of God, that with well doing ye may put to silence the ignorance of foolish men" (1 Peter 2:13-15, See also Romans 13:1-2).
so yeah, if you think its really the will of God and that is what you believe in, then fine. But don't decide its Gods will just because YOU want it to be. Think about outside factors that have proved this.
first, I assume you have a relationship with God. Because well, that is a will that he plainly states in the Bible. If you are a christian...his first will for you is for you and him to have a relationship together before anyone else.
secondly, his next will is for you to tell people about Jesus. Be his disciple.
now read the bible, which from your question, I assume you have but focus on what is said and not what is not said. The bible also mentions nothing about meth, but that doesn't mean that people should go out and do meth because the bible doesn't mention it. Use common sense.
My best bet for you, if you want to know if its really God's will for you to be with your cousin is to talk to other Christians, talk to a pastor about it. See what he has to say.
Another way you will know is if you find peace being with your cousin, and right now you do but it doesn't say much being as you two haven't told your family yet. If everyone is okay with it...awesome, good! but my guess is that its going to create more drama then it is peace...in most cases. depending on the family.
Side note, I used to be a youth group leader and well, a bible thumper. I am not anymore, but I'm very knowledgable about what christianity is really about. its not about going to church, its not about your own needs, its completely about God and your relationship with him. It might seem like I just discredited myself now, being as I don't completely buy it anymore, but its because of statements that you made...."God brought us together" "God told me"....it doesn't happen like that. If there is a God, he wants you to be happy but he also wants your family to have a lovely life too. He would be thinking about how your kids would be affected about this, he would be thinking about what is best for you.
My old employer once said "We are God's children, he isn't going to give us everything we want. He will give us the things that are best for us, just like a good father would. Sometimes something we want, as long as its not harmful. But he sees the bigger picture"...but he isn't just focused on one person, he is focused on anyone who loves him and well, thats a damn lot of people. And God isn't a people pleaser, he doesn't give everyone their desires because most of the time what men want are exactly those things that are worse for them.
I'm not saying your cousin is bad for you...I don't even know him. Just rethink the reason you are going to be with him, don't blame it on God. That is a cop out, take responsibility for your feelings and hope your family understands.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): since you want to justify yourself using the bible, i want to remind you that the bible warns us about stambling others. just think about your family relationship and what can happen to the two families if you break or hurt each other. however let me add that am in a similar relationship which i have failed to resolve.follow your conscious because i believe that culture and tradition has denied us many things(many times with no good reason) we would otherwise enjoy
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