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writes: I was seeing this guy who I really liked. But I didn't tell him I really liked him and insisted that we both see other people. He told me he wanted to give us a go but I rejected him. I know it was stupid but I guess I was scared that it would end badly as I've been hurt before.So anyway now I've realised I've fallen for him but while I've been making my mind up, he's met someone else and has finished with me.How do I stop myself being so guarded in future to stop this happening again, as this is not the first time this has happened to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2005): First, take a different approach from what you used to do. If both of you seem to hit it off, be open and let him know your experiences and how guarded you tend to become. Is he understanding? Does he try to help you with advice or tells a guy's point of view? Does he show genuine interest in you and your thoughts? etc., and see how he responds. So stay positive from now on. You have "practiced" a few times from your "mistakes" and now if you do fall back again, laugh it off with "I did it again!" and try not to take yourself too seriously: you are going through a phase.
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