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writes:my story is going to sound very confusing but I need help pleaseI'm 35 years old married very young at the age of 14,it was my parents choice to marry my husband so he can sponsor me to the US and then I'll sponsor my brothers to establish their future.anyway,we got married have 4 kids now,my husband is a nice guy but the thing is I never felt that I loved him but I care for him.in 2003 I was on a trip and met one of my cousin,he's 35 as well started talking on the phone as friends cause he's overseas and then fell in love with each other ,he's single ,we were very close in everyway ,I love him to death and he does too. I feel disgusted cause I'm married and doing this but can't help it.the problem is now that he thinks time is running out on him and he wants to get married and have a family,he asked me many times that if I leave my husband we'll get married but I didn't find it easy or right leaving my kids for anyone.now he's getting engaged and he says he loves me so much and he has no feelings for her but he's doing it to have kids.I told him that I shouldn't be talking to him any more because the jealousy is killing me . I love him more than anything and he does too.he wants me to stay in his life even when he gets married.but I'm going crazy cause I love him,not one day passes by without talking to him. plz help me tell me what should I do.I can't live without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): sweetie you answered your own question... you said you cant live without him.. but, all of life has its punishments and rewards and the choices you make will affect 5 lives seperate from yours. Breaking up a home full of children for a love that you may have is a very serious issue. The consiquences severe. I think you need to ask yourself a few questions...is this worth it? are my kids happiness worth it?do i want to put my kids through this?how are the kids going to react to me leaving them?is this man worth me leaving my children?do i truly love this man?you are the only one who can make this choice there is not a single piece of advise that i could give you to help. only give you questions that i would ask myself. I do have to say though, that if he loved you and cared for you and your family, then he wouldn't ask you to break your children's heart.good luck
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