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writes:My marriage is falling apart, because of sexual problems. My husband does not enjoy having sex with me. He says it's because I'm to big and feels nothing when we are making love. We've been together for 5 years and maybe have sex 4 or 5 times a years. I've had this problem before in the past with my ex boyfriend not want to have sex with me. Although he never told me that I was too big down there, we would not have sex 3 or 4 times a year. I use to ask him was there anything wrong, but he would say no, it's him. I am 43 years old and never had children and I've only been involved with 2 men my entire life time. I was 35 when I lost my virginity.I did talk to my doctor and she said that I was normal and not to big and does not need any surgery. However I feel that there must be something wrong, because I had the same problem with 2 diffent men and neither of them are small down there. My question is has anyone ever tried the kegelmaster? If so, what type of results did u achieve. I would really like some feedback. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010): I think buying the kegelmaster is something you should do as a later step after you know how to do vaginal exercises and give it a good try. If you want you can check out this site for more info on a book that can help you and has helped me. Plus it's got a money back guarantee if it doesn't work. Here's a link to the site:
http://tinyurl.com/VaginaBible
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
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reader, Serenity007 +, writes (13 April 2010):
Serenity007 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thank all of you for your advice/feedback. I truly appreciate it! However to the last poster who commented about the kegelmaster, would you please pm me? I would like to ask you more questions regarding it.
Thanks again to all of you who answered my question and taking the time to respond!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): absolutely get a kegelmaster ASAP. it’s the most effective way to do kegels—& kegel exercises are what you should be doing, not surgery [which wouldn’t make the difference you want, & furthermore wouldn’t persist]—because it trains your vaginal muscles by resistive exercise. there’s not all that much point in doing kegels without a resistive device…it’s like the difference between lifting weights [= resistive training] & raising your arms [= no resistance].
if you do the recommended three sets of 30 two-second holds with a kegelmaster every day, your husband should notice a difference after about a week, & he’ll probably begin to actually enjoy having sex with you after a month of daily exercise. from there on, it’ll just keep getting better.
just keep doing the daily exercises until you’re up to using all four springs—& then, experiment to see how often you need to exercise in order to maintain that level of tightness. [if you want to be even tighter, you can walk into a home depot with one of the springs & ask a salesperson to help you find identical springs of greater resistance.]
please trust me—i’ve heard from enough women to be CERTAIN that my own personal experience from using the kegelmaster for sexual benefits is the rule, not the exception.
it’s hard to find a kegelmaster for sale under $90—but if you watch eBay, sometimes you can pick one up in the $40-$70 range. in any case, everybody says the $90 is the best investment they’ve ever made, so take my word that you won’t regret spending the money one bit.
you HAVE to practice every day. if you skip two or three days on a regular basis, you’ll find your progress is really stunted & might feel disappointed—so just stick with the regime [& you’ll be golden].
good luck! & don’t despair—with consistent work, you can absolutely fix this!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 I find it really hard to believe that you would be too big especially since you have never had children. Are you able to keep tampons in? If so you are fine and just unfortunately got two silly thoughtless men in a row. Sending you lots of love doll.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): i feel so bad for u, it must really kill ur self-esteem especially for ur guy to say such a thing to u. how about going to get a second opinion to see whether or not u do have a problem down there. perhaps u could even ask the gynecologist for advice on how to tighten ur vagina muscles (surgery or simply exercises). the most important thing is to ask whether or not u feel ur mans penis when it enters u, of if u can feel whether or not ure tight down there just by inserting ur fingers or tampons. maybe it has nothing to do with ur vagina and other issues are involved. maybe u dont perform as well as a man would like u to because u started late and u dont have as much experience as other women or maybe u have issues with ur body and its affecting ur performance levels.
my advice for u would be to go to another gynocologist, to explain ur issues, get feedback and if ure too loose contemplate either surgery and exercises to help tighten urself. if ure average in tightness then im sure other issues are to blame and it wud help to seek a relationship therapist, counselling or even sex therapist to help u through ur issues.
anyway, here are some websites i found that help u with tightening does muscles. i think kegel exercises should make a huge difference because if u think about it the vagina basically is covered with muscle with u can work on and strengthen. there are plenty more websites on the subject, u should google it and research it and maybe start trying them out.
http://hubpages.com/hub/How-to-tighten-Vagina-naturally-using-Kegel-exercises
http://www.secretherbs.com/kegelexercise.html
http://www.articlealley.com/article_892364_23.html
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