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*rincessjasmine
writes:Anyone out there who is female and turned on by females in the general public...lately ive been getting turned on by femininity but love my bf and love thinking of him cuz thats REAL to me...my mind is diverging though and i wanna know if you do this and if you still consider urself straight..cuz i do...esp since i have no urge to go sleep with a girl or be with one or hav ne connection with one.i just get slightly aroused by em at times, esp pretty ones...and if they're old friends i dont think anything but if i just meet a new girl..i get a little anxious...like oh girl...i think its cuz im analyzing, but my questions is...is it ok to b turned on by them but not be w/one or even want to b w/one.im confusing myself and i wanna kno if its ok to just drop it and go bak to seein girls as just pretty and hot and nothing more...i am sick of making mysel sick by thinking im gay just b/c im getting turned on by the same sex..i wanna kno if anyone out there has had this issue but is happy w/a man...oh and i dont like any specific girl either its just in general...im veryyyy happy with my guy and get turned on by him too..but not other guys...in the general public its the girls taht im noticing all of a sudden..wat is this? Reply to this Question
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reader, iamgeekusa +, writes (15 July 2008):
It sounds to me like you need to check out some of the work of Alfred C. Kinsey. Particularly his book titled "Sexual behavior in the human female"
Despite the extreme labels of sexual orientation that most people use, Kinsey's extensive research revealed that Most people are not strictly gay, straight or bi. He developed a series of tests and measuring a persons sexual preference on a sliding scale. 1 being completely heteralsexual and 6 being strictly gay. It was determined that the real minority were the people who are either extremely gay or straight. Most people fall somewhere inbetween. Here's a link to the book on wikipedia if your interested.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_Behavior_in_the_Human_Female
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (10 June 2008):
princessjasmine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionur so right, it is curiosity not arousal....how do i stop this curiousness? its bothering me to pieces
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): Okay,
Its totally natural what your feeling. Girls between the Middle/High school age tend to be attracted to other girls. It may not be the physical attraction, but the emotional attraction. Girls seem to understand you better on the emotional level, and are less confusing than guys and that is why you feel this way. I personally have never, but its natural. As to the physical attraction your feeling, it is okay to think a girl is "hot" or "sexy", and not be homosexual. I don't think your getting "aroused", i just think your curious. Comparing yourself to other girls or thinking they are attractive isn't being "gay" or homosexual, because being homosexual is wanting to/doing sexual relations with someone of the same gender. And you arn't wanting/doing either of those so dont worry about it. Its just a phase of growing up and learning more about yourself and who you are. Don't let this freak you out or draw you from your friends, just act as you usually do. Focus more on your man and this will probably pass in no time.
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (6 June 2008):
princessjasmine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI feel this is very pedifile-ish in nature...except with girls (not kids) its like stimulus--body reaction...its like pavlov's dog...
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 I sometime encounter boys who I find very attractive. The idea of having sexual intercourse with them never occurred... yet anyways.
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reader, siobhankay  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 i think most of this is in your mind... you probably got interested and a little turned on once and now that youve realised you did your kind of obessive over it hun .. you need to relax... its like now that its in your mind its controlling you a little.. just let it go... i know when i get something strange in my mind i wont let it go for a week mabye a month.
just try to enjoy been with your bf. n if you notice a girl.. then notice her. eventually you wont be so paranoid about it.. Xx hope i helped xX
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (3 June 2008):
princessjasmine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnow on top of that, I get awkward around girls wen a month ago I was perfectly finnnne...not thinkin of it...not gettin awkward..they were all just girls...i think if everyone had my mind they wud go crazy haha...maybe if i dont think so much about it..i wont be so awkward around girls who I DONT EVEN WANNA B W/ lol
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reader, I'mheretohelpyou +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Well, I wouldn't say I'm turned on by other girls because I'm not but sometimes I look at girls and kinda compare myself to them and I'm the type of person to not judge by gender, if someone's hot, I'm saying it!!!! brangelina is sexy!!!!!
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (2 June 2008):
princessjasmine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsoooo what do i do? how do u enjoy something u dont want to feel...it makes me feel guilty...cuz im w/a man i love and he doesnt kno...and i cant tell him cuz he might break up with me:( he knows i think girls are hot but everyone thinks that..this is beyond thinking their hot...this is getting aroused by EVERy girl..which is kinda weird...i dont even know wat this is called...its hard to not think of it wen I go out or watch tv...anywhere..where thers a girl ill start thinking of it....i wanna reduce the thinking but i can only do that if i dont get turned on...i do compare myself to em too..like whos fatter or skinnier, i also say aww shes so pretty...and i also think we can b coool friends...but idk lately this paranoia is driving me nuts and i dont like it...its not even that i "like them" cuz i forget about em right away, ill see something nice about a girl but not care about it like the way i think of my bf like ONE thing he said will keep replaying in my head...not with a girl...and yet im getting all awkward with em now...cuz of this turn on thing...why am i doin it? can i go bak to thinking theyre just pretty and tahts that? cuz if i dont ill just keep thinking
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reader, siobhankay +, writes (1 June 2008):
i get arroused by nakid girls from time to time ut im certainly not gay. its just one of them things. try not to worry about it hun 3 x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 June 2008):
You've stopped seeing guys other than boyfriend as attractive because you love him. You only have eyes for him.
And then girls are pretty. They are. It's a fact. Plus the fact we are bombarded with images of sexy and quite often naked girls in adverts everyday, and told that it's desirable.
Look around, and enjoy looking, but if you are with your boy and you love him then the chance of you being gay are very small.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (1 June 2008):
princessjasmine is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthats wat everyoens saying:) thanks...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): Honey, what they say is "if it feels wrong, you're not gay". If you really don't like the thought of being lesbian, then nobody's forcing you! Everyone has fantasies, we're all entitled. This is all you're doing, fantasising. And being gay is only a label, who says you need to tell anyone anyway? It doesn't change a thing honey. I doubt you're gay, I'm sure it's just fantasies. Don't worry!!
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