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writes:Hello i am 29 and have only ever had 1 girlfriend. I have never been good looking, but in the past year i have tried to make myself more attractive by regrowing my hair. My hair was receeding quite alot and girls actually said the thinning hair made me less attractive. (i wasnt very good looking anyway). I ordered hairloss pills from the internet and now a year on my hair is thick again. My question is this, now i have a bit more confidence i would like to join a dating agency. The problem is people have told me they are a waste of time. Is it really possible to find a girlfriend through a dating agency.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): Wow, great advice from the anonymous poster! I would just add that another reason the first meeting should be a coffee date is to weed out the ones who are just looking for a free meal.Don't worry about your looks. Some of my boyfriends have been good looking and some haven't, that was not a factor in how much i wanted to be with them. It's not about looks for most women, it's about being confident, interesting and fun to be with.If you are talking about online dating then put up pics where you are smiling or at least look happy and relaxed. You have no idea how many men put up grim mug shots that make them look positively scary!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): Yes it is possible to find love through a dating agency but dont expect it to be a walk in the park.My partner and I met through RSVP and are completley in love. Before we met each other we both met so many strange people some even scary.It took time. I went on 14 dates before I met my man.What you have to do is treat it as a way to meet new friends and let it go from there. By date 4 I realised this and just started to enjoy myself and making conversation with a range of interesting people.My online dating advice is (from a girl who learnt the hard way lol) is;1- Take the time to get to know a girl through phone conversations, email etc before you suggest you meet up. If you suggest a meeting straight away women think you are either totally desperate or one of the MANY online sex predators looing for a root and thats it.2- Put up a recent pic of yourself and one that isn't your best.....I know that sounds totally CRAZY but most men rock up to dates looking terrible compaired to their airbrushed pictures. Pleasantly suprise by showing up looking better than your profile picture.3- Do not under any circumstances disclose your home address or place of work for a few dates. Ist fine to say what you do but if you dont like the girl you dont want her showing up at your work in tears.4- Dont go straight for the dinner date. Meet for coffee or something first before lunch or dinner so that you can easily remove yourself if you dont like the person. If you get along really well you can say....hey lets get dinner and continue the date.5- Show initiative if you like someone and they seem to like you call them the NEXT day and set up another meeting. Make your dates interesting and different and do things that reflect who you are. Dont take her to an art gallery if you HATE art for example.6- Dont sleep with her or even attempt it on the first date.7- Dont get drunk.8- if she wants to pay half dont let her....tell her she can get the next meal if she likes but you would like to get this one. (Thats how my man got a second date with me lol).9- Dont talk about your messed up childhood, the bitch who broke your heart etc if you want another date.10- if she talks about her miserable childhood and the bastard who broke her heart etc move on she isn't over him.11- Kids are fine but if she has several all with different fathers steer clear unless u want to end up living in a trailor park looking after the kids while she gets drunk and goes out.12- Be happy and comfortable in your own skin. learn to love yourself. If you have nothing to offer socially, emotionally etc you wont be good partner material. This isn't about money its about being a complete person with interests of their own.13- Dont act desperate. 14- If a girl says thanks but no thanks just leave it at that. I said no to many great guys just because I was waiting to feel that spark after being in a loveless relationship for 8 years. If they aren't feeling it from the start and tell you so they are doing you a FAVOUR. respect their decision and know that rejecting a person is a hard thing to do and that you may be in their shoes at some stage.15- Finally HAVE FUN XXXHope some of this helps and dont worry im sure you will find what you are looking for.I am my boyfriends second girlfriend and he is 32 and the most amazing thoughtful person I have ever met.Im sure you have a lot to offer some lucky woman. You may have to search for a while but she will be worth it in the end.
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reader, Kellz20  +, writes (1 February 2009):
 So meeting people through dating agencies online are great. I met the man I wish to marry more than anything. Although the one down side is i dont know him from before and now we are having more challanges with the past. it is hard. although i still believe he is my true love and want him more than anything so i say go for it try it there is no reason not to.
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