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writes:I have been dating my b/f for the last year and a half now. I love him so much and can tell that we will always be together. We are perfect in every way together. There's one problem though. It's a little embarrassing to say but it's to do with our sex life. He's always turned on and ready to go but I can't seem to be the same. We have great sex and once we start it's amazing but to get started is the problem. I don't seem to have any sex drive at all. I'm never in the mood. I don't understand what's wrong with me? Can anyone help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Hormones - get them cranking. Go to the herbal stores and see what they have to get the blood pumping. They are there to be sold, so its not embarressing.
Porno porno porno - Watch some youporn on here, and keep that image in your head when you are about to have sex, watch how turned on the girls get.
Fingering, he might be taking it too quick, get him to go really slow until you get into the mood. As you said, you love it when your there, so he is going to have to take it slower to turn you on.
Here is a simple one - imagine another girl pleasing his sexual desires, now this is not at all pretty. That should get you jumping his bones in no time, as you do not want another women touching your man, so its up to you to keep him happy and please him.
You may have too much going on and not be able to relax.... hence you are going to need some stimulation like herbs.
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reader, JoshB667  +, writes (13 November 2010):
Me again; If you are genuinely not getting into it regardless, it could be due to hormones or something similar i.e. if they are unbalanced. In which case it could be related to your diet. Make sure you are eating healthy and have a good intake of vitamins. You can have your doctor check these things with blood tests and so forth. Are you a 'healthy' weight for your height ? do you do enough exercise ? do you have a lot of stress in you life ? try and address those kind of things.
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reader, JoshB667 +, writes (13 November 2010):
My first query, in line with aunt honesty would be to regarding foreplay, does you two go into it gradually with adequite foreplay ? and does he give you an orgasm every time ? For me, my biggest priority is to satisfy my gf and give her an orgasm and get her very sexually excited and make her come which I do by going down on her during foreplay. With this approach I give her an orgasm every time and the subsequent intercourse (and my subsequent orgasm) is just an extra bonus. I get as much satisfaction knowing I have made her cum as I do by cuming myself. With this routine of making sure she is always satisfied she enjoys sex immensely and it gives her a high sex drive. Make him go down on you and don't have sex until you have cum; - I don't see why he wouldn't go for it, but I for one love giving girls head, the taste & smell, and having a mouth full of vaginal juices really gets me going. You will both enjoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): Sorry, me again, he does....he's great at foreplay, but when he starts to kiss me i just don't want to? I don't understand it myself...I'll just say I'm not in the mood and that's it...I don't know what to do about it??
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (13 November 2010):
 Well he needs to get you in to the mood most girls need to be aroused through foreplay. kissing and touching each other for a while before intercourse, most women cant go straight to intercourse they need to be touched and kissed for a while before hand, so make sure he spends time on foreplay.
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