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writes:Hello everyone this is my first time seeking help over the net. Lately I have been running out of answers and solutions. This is my love story. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 years and 11 months. At the beginning of our relationship everything was fine, we loved each other so much. At that time she lived in fl, so for about a year we didn't really see each other but talked many hours on the phone and on the computer. During our second year of dating she moved back ny. During this year we started to be intimate with each other I would sneak to her house and we would spend time alone and it was always behind her parents back because they were very very over protective and she was the only daughter. This went on for about a year until one day we almost got caught and she thought it was best if we stopped spending time with each other alone...So for about a year we did not spend time alone and we never got intimate with one another. Now I understand why she stopped it and I understand that dealing with religion and parents is very difficult. But at the same time that decision a year and a half ago has, in my POV destroyed our relationship because ever since then we both have been growing so far apart. Yes, we spend more time together but never alone because her parents are over protective and she doesn't want to go against what her parents say. Last summer she went away on vacation and I had gotten so fed up with our situation that I started to hang out with my friends and did not want to speak to her.... I hurt her very bad...Something I promised id never do... So when she came back I talked to her in person I told her that I was sorry and that I couldn't live life without her...she told me that I would have to try extremely hard to get her back...So I did just that and from the point of last summer to now i have tried my hardest, i have given up invitation, my friends, my family, everything to try and win her love again... But now i am the one crying myself to sleep and i know that is what i put her through...But the thing that i have trouble understanding is this....She knows what she is doing to me because she has told me but makes me believe that she is not doing it on purpose..mind you this sounds just like me a summer ago and i know that i had total control of what my actions were... she also tells me that she just doesn't feel the same that my company is not as pleasing...this is the same exact way i felt last summer.. it feels like she is me this summer and i am her. But i messed up for about 3 months which is a long time to be fucking up... But she has been treating me really bad for about a year now.... My friends all tell me that i should leave her that i don't deserve someone to be treating me the way she does...that they all know i messed up but to have my feeling and emotion tossed in the air the way they are is not worth it.....She only has one friend and her parents still at the age of 19 do not let her do anything...The sad part about this though is that her parents like me they leave us alone from time to time when we watch a movie.... i spent thanksgiving..xmas...and new years with her family... i go over her aunts house...her aunt is nice to me... me n her brothers hang out..... her mom invites me places....even the dad and i have small convo from time to time..... this hurts so much i love her so much more then anything i have put my entire life aside for just one person and next year i will going be going to the same college as she does to run for their team..I have a teammate there that i ran with in HS. There are in my eyes so many opportunities for us but how can i do that if the one person that i want to be with feels nothing right now...she is so cold to me and i keep coming back to her always like a child who runs after candy i keep crying idk and i know that she still loves me but is just confused not just with me but with everything in her life...I know her like the back of my hand but i am also scarred because i see her not thinking right now and i know that if i leave i wont come back i wont call her or text her until i get over the love i have and i know she will realize what she had but that is so hard to do please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): You're a great guy and you deserve a great girl. Marry me. Hahah. Well as I read this, I think that she is trying to show you how she felt.. by letting you feel the same way. Hurt doesn't it. Revenge. Even though a year seems long enough, she should stop. I don't know her reason for continueing.. but I hope she's not having fun with it and fooling around. But I must warn you not too sound TOO desperate towards her.. Or your family and friends or you will be the fool. (Even though that's how you actually feel and you can't stop loving her) Just don't show it. Be a man. Don't go begging her to stop. But try asking if she really loves and stuff. I don't know how it's actually going on with you guys but I hope it will get better. Hopefully she will finnally realize it's time to start showing you some love and respect too. Good luck :)
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