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anonymous
writes:Thank you for reading this even after the title.I've been having a crush on this guy for over a year. Shortly after we met he started sending me frequent texts, asking me out, telling me everything about him, etc. Everything that made me think he was making a move on me. Since I liked him I responded enthusiastically. After a while though he started ignoring me, and I would think about giving up on him, and then he would somehow do incredibly sweet things that made me have hope in us again. This cycle went on for about 5 months. Then I heard rumors about him inviting his crush to prom. At that time we still talked from time to time. A month or so afterwards I heard the news that his crush actually had a boyfriend. Since then we never spoke much. From that point I decided he wasn't into me but there are some things I can't understand.1. He invited me to his piano recital2. Our mutual friend kept teasing him about us3. He's been keeping something I lent him a year ago even though I've reminded him hundreds of timesSo here goes my first question. What do these things mean and has he ever felt the same way about me?And the story goes on... if you're still reading this, thank you.2 months ago I learned that he was going abroad for further education. I thought I was over him but I couldn't help wanting him to stay. I want things to be like they were a year ago, but I'm afraid it just can't be anymore. What should I do?
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (13 February 2012):
 You should move on. Any chance of it working out is now lost. He's going to leave to study abroad. It doesn't seem like he was that into you anyway, otherwise he would have pursued a relationship with you.
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reader, BeckySmith101 +, writes (13 February 2012):
ooh. toughie. I think that he either likes you but he doesn't know it or doesn't like you at all but is trying hard to push-you-away-but-be-friends-at-the-same-time move. its all a bit complicated. if you really wanted answers, speak to him or your mutual friend about it. that would make you still be friends and if he asks why just blame it on a sibling or something. thats what I do. and the whole you wanting him to stay thing? I've wanted that several times. just take some time away from him and see how long it lasts before you REALLY want to see him. If it lasts longer than a week, your just really good friends and vice versa.
hope this helps!
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