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writes:So do they really work? I mean think about it. To have a good relationship where you might see each other once a week, or maybe once a month, can it work?Depends on how faithful each of the people are. But if you have two people leading separate lives about 300 miles between each other, can a real life sexual relationship work? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): My wife and I had a long distance relationship the first three years we were together. I first lived across the state but traveled a lot for my job. We spent as much as much time as we could together. I then took a job out west and she stayed in the Midwest. We got married during that stint. We now have a great marriage living together.The key to anyt relationship is knwoing how to share teh love and respect each person needs. You can find out more about how we made it work by getting the book Men Are Like Cake. It can be downloaded from www.bakerspublishing.com
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reader, xxjust_mexx  +, writes (9 December 2008):
 heyyes they definitley can work, just as youve been told. im in one at the moment, we've been together 15'months so far. mines a little different tho, as my guy is in training to be in the merchanct navy.So for 3 months a year, he is at college and we see each other once every few weekends. And then he goes to sea... for 5 months, so thats 5 months of us not seeing each other at all. We always talk but for 5 months we dont see each other. And it is actually the best relationship I could ask for. obviously i would like to see him more but it does work as we trust each other.They can definitley work if yoou have trust on both sides.
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reader, zelgamer +, writes (9 December 2008):
 yes they can, my wife and I started out on a long distance relationship, she was 480 miles away from me, we saw each other every weekend, and we were very sexually active. We finally got married and we are living the life now.
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reader, Bennu +, writes (9 December 2008):
 I know I'm still pretty young, but my relationship is going well. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 4 years, and we live on other sides of the country now. We both know that what we want is each other, and we trust each other to be true. As soon as I'm finished with my college classes over where I live, I'll be moving over to be with him. We've talked about marriage, and we both don't see anything happening that would prevent us from being together like that in the future.
In short, long distance can work. You have to really want it, though, and you have to want to make it work. Otherwise you'll just be frustrated and hurting yourself. Communication and personal time with your partner is also important, and since there isn't anyway for my and my guy to see eachother at the moment, we just fall asleep on the phone every night cause we don't want to hang up, so we are always together at night even if we are on different sides of the US.
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (9 December 2008):
Somethingeasy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks, I always like success stories, they brighten my questions.
Frankly I just moved to a new city and Im a bit lonely here. I met someone online, and I like the fact that they are there. But I am having issues thinking about how it can actually work out miles away.
If it doesnt work out, it wasnt meant to be, but we are both busy people, and it seems like careers might come first. Im more intrested in just finding an actual relationship that will work for me, so many have failed in the past, and all I want is for one to actually succeed now.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 December 2008):
 Yes, they can work! I was in one for two years, and I married my guy too. It was work, it was difficult, it required trust and boy, was it fun to see him! Ours was 800 miles, by the way, we had to fly to see one another. It helped that we both traveled for work and had large amounts of frequent flyer miles.
We were both cognizant of the potential pitfalls and we spoke on the phone nearly every day. (It helped to have a good long distance phone plan.)
Trust, commitment, effort. If you go in doubting it'll succeed, it probably won't. Have fun getting to really know him long distance and enjoy those blissful reunions.
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