Long distance love, will I lose him?

A female age 41-50, *ae80808 writes:

Hi, my boyfriend and I have been in this relationship for 9 months now but since he lives in Australia and I am in the Philippines, we only communicate through the phone at least an hour everyday. We also send each other text msgs some time during the day. We only met in an internet dating site, he came to the Philippines after 5-6 mos of communication over the phone but we were already inlove with each other when we met in person. We talk about the future together though he was legally separated with his wife (meaning to say he can't re-marry yet but that's not my problem..)and they have a 9 year-old daughter who lives with either of them in schedule. I feel that ahe loves me too, but in a relationship there's always someone who feels more and gets hurt the most, and I'm afraid that it's me, in our case. He has never sent me any letter nor card in the past while I've been doing it almost every week then (and he loved it). I asked him to do me the favor even once. He promises everytime but hasn't fulfilled it even once. He says he always forgets, or he doesn't have time, and it really tears my heart up. I'm upset. Isn't it that a relationship is suppose to be "give and take"? One more thing... one day, he asked for my email password because he wants us to be an "open-book" to each other. I gave it to him without questioning why, but never asked for his in return. Just yesterday, I thought about it and asked for his password, as well. We ended up fighting because he didn't want to give out his. When I insisted, he said he can't because his "past life" is there and he's afraid that it may cause our misunderstandings.. he also said "it's not the time yet...let's wait til u'r here in Australia with me". What does he exactly mean??? I am so confused, I never went to work and never ate for a whole day because I was so hurt... I felt that he's so unfair, knowing that he was always the one that wants us to be as open as possible to each other. Do u think he's hiding something? U think he still hasn't gotten over his ex-wife who cheated on him? I had the chance to ask that question to him, and he always replies with "I've long gotten over her, and I love you so much now". I don't understand. Sometimes i just think of letting go, find someone else who can comfort me when I'm sad. but i'm also not ready to lose him. I am so confused. pls tell me what to do. Pls feel free to ask questions. Thank u so much...

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