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writes:I am currently in a long distance relationship with the most wonderful man I've ever met. He is everything I've ever wanted in a partner: kind, supportive, caring, funny, loyal, and trustworthy. He will be back for good in May of this year (we live in the same town), but he is away at military school. We've been dating for about 2 months now. We visit each other about every 2 weeks and talk on the phone each night for around an hour. However, he is not allowed to text much during class nor is he allowed to text while walking around campus. It drives me crazy that I can't talk to him constantly. Sometimes an hour or so will go in between texts. I know that sounds silly, but at the beginning of the school year he was able to text all the time and I got used to that.Backstory: I've been burned badly in past relationships. Even in friendships, I have gotten constantly dumped and ditched without reason. I am a total worrier. I feel like I'm going crazy when I'm waiting to hear from him. I feel insecure and then worry that he's bored with me or has started to dislike me. I find myself sending 2 texts, which then worries me that he will think I'm too clingy or annoying. It's still early in our relationship, but I have opened up on how I feel and he's always supportive and makes me feel better. He's had insecure/sad moments too, but lately it has been me. I am so terrified of the day he tells me he just doesn't see it working with us or that me being too neurotic ruins it for us. I'm not always this worried, but the past 2 days have been rough. What do I do?How do I come to terms with not being able to talk to him constantly and NOT worry so much about if/when it is going to end?
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reader, Zoroll  +, writes (9 September 2015):
 One of the most usual phrases that I always try tell myself is 'Dont worry until it happens' I know its so hard to do that. Long distance relationships often make people feel exactly the same as you do - you're both leading different lifes right now and its hard from them to link together. If you believe that this is the guy for you, then its totally worth all this - you both seem devoted to each other and it sounds like he is putting you first with all the free time he has to contact you.Just remember its probably hard for him as well, both having probably having uneccasary troubling thoughts but if you're positive about the future then try focus on that and just know it will be worth it one day.As you have a set month when he is returning it makes it a lot simplier for you two to have something to reach to. If you keep feeling like this, talk to him! but in the mean time try and do something to distract your attention - an activity that doesn't require you checking your phone and getting worried. Really hope it works out for you both :)
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