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writes:I'm a 39 year old single woman and have been treated badly by men all my life either been lied to or cheated on but now I'm so insecure and can't trust anyone that I drive men away, I just met this lovely guy but within 3 days I managed to lose him by accusing him of lying and I now think that he wasn't and that he was genuine.It's too late now and I find myself alone and sad again.Can anyone help me with my insecurity and trust issues please..sharon.
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reader, sharon_d_39 +, writes (31 January 2009):
sharon_d_39 is verified as being by the original poster of the question my biggest troeble is getting into a relationship thou the guys dont understand that i have issues and that they need to be addressed rather than run from.does this mean that they arnt the right one for me in the first place or that they cant be bothered with the hassel im so scared that im going to be single for the rest of my life because of my issues, i know counceling is good but i have tried it in the past and hypnotherepy but they are only short term i just dont know wot to do im at my wits end.i even contiplated suicied last night cus im just so dam lonly. i feel like a failier as a mother as well as a partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): i completely understand. i am just coming off a relationship in which trust was broken and now i am in a new relationship that i accuse my guy of not being reliable before he is even guilty.
the only advice i have is that love is a leap of faith and you have to just let live and hope for the best because you are actually created enough self- defense mechanisms that you will have a pillow to land on this time around. try not to use them upfront
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reader, sharon_d_39 +, writes (31 January 2009):
sharon_d_39 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyour advice has helped alot because im going to look into counciling thank you...
i know that most of the problems lay with me because i dont give the guy a chance i wreck things befor they even get going i grab on to tight staraight away through fear of loosing them i know im doing it but cant stop myself.
like if they havnt replied to my text within half and hour im panicking thinking that they arnt interested anymore and i just dont know how im going to stop feeling this way..
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