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writes:im 25 years old me and my boyfriend have been dating 3 years and living together for 2 of those years. Im currently in school to be a Physicians assistant because this is a masters program I still have quite a few years to go. The problem I'm having is I want to be engaged not for the ring and I really don't want to get married until I'm out of school, but I feel like I need to know there is a commitment being made on his part. Of course I'm aware that being engaged dosn't mean we can't breakup however I want to know that his intentions are to be with me forever if not I want to move on now not in 5 years. Is pushing him or giving an ultimatum a good idea im sure its not but is a time limit ok and if were not engaged in that time limit should I give up? Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (30 April 2007):
 I don't see any point in giving him an ultimatum. Pushing him could end up badly for you and you said yourself all you want to know is if there will be a commitment some day. You can just as easily find this out by asking him about the future... what he thinks about kids, houses etc. Tell him how you feel but don't phrase it so he feels pressured.
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