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writes:I have been chit chatting with an old friend online and through text messages for a few months now. I'm really beginning to develop feelings for him. Thing is he's been divorced for about a year and I'm freshly out of a miserable 10 yr. marriage. I have 2 kids which he's offered to take up time with so that's a plus. Thing is I have NO CLUE what steps to take, how or when to take them. I never dated much before my marriage. He's kind of a shy guy and I'm sure he doesn't want to push me. I see him for the first time in over a year in 2 weeks and I'm sooooo nervous. I'm not sure what his feelings are for me so should I wait and see how it goes or is there a way to guage his online/ text convos before hand so I'll know where I stand? I don't want to think we are on a 'date' if he thinks we're just out as friends but I don't want to be too forward and freak him out before we see each other. Advice GREATLY APPRECIATED!
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reader, MGC  +, writes (24 October 2010):
Hiya. I'd just say take it all very slowly, without any expectations of anything developing. But in the 'real world' we are all human and our feelings/desires are, of course, our primary characteristics. You are both out of relationships relatively recently and it has become my firm opinion that, especially after long-term relationships, another relationship should not be tried for at least two years.
Take it all slowly, and just be friends for a bit; that's my suggestion at this stage. Regarding the not having dated much business, that won't matter, in my opinion. Good luck in the friendship; what may happen in the future, who knows? But the friendship will be good for you both at this stage, I feel.
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