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writes: I lied and told my boyfriend that i never had sex when i really did. I didnt tell him the truth when we first met because i didnt want him to be with me just for sex. This was when i was 15 now iam 18. We are still together but he still thinks he was my first. i been with 2 guys before him I want to tell him the truth so bad, but the thought of the outcome makes me run away. He wants to have a family with me. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, gizmo  +, writes (8 October 2007):
I would be so pissed if my girlfriend did that to me, but despite being mad at her I would let her know how glad I am she decided to become truthful with me and that I forgive her 100%. IT oquld take a day or 2 to get over being pissed but after that I would trust her more and again stess how glad I am she came out with the truth. Tell him, if he really loves you he will forgive you, he just might be very mad for the first few days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2005): You should tell him the truth if you want an honest long-term relationship. Put it in the context that you feel guilty about having lied before and that you will never lie to him again - you want to clean the slate. Also tell him your reason for the original lie. Don't go into any details about the previous episodes - that was before you knew him. Let him know that the others were just playing around and nothing serious and that you will be loyal to him as long as you are together. If he really loves you he should forgive you and even trust you more for telling him the truth on your own. Never lie again.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (28 February 2005):
 I think that in this case, telling the truth may cause more trouble than it should really. I realise that you want to be honest with him but so much time has passed that it is probably better to say nothing at all. It seems you have a stable and loving relationship and he wants to have a family with you. My advice would really be to say nothing as it would cause too much hurt now. However, in all other instances, it is best to tell the truth from the start.I hope this helps.
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