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writes: Is this a good note to send to an ex? Or is it too involved? All perspectives welcome here. Like, guys would you send this...and girls, would this be a note that warmed your heart or freaked you out?Names are all made up...~Marie,I'm just very bothered by the way this turned out. I realize you have your own perspective and everything, but to me everything is annoyingly unfinished and you seem to get angry so easily or just shut things out. I don't understand, and it is my lack of understanding of your mindset that got us to this place, anyway. You always have been this unsolved mystery to me.You do know Tamelle (the girl before you) played me for all my money and got me fired from my job working in my Dad's office, right? You do know she threatened to prostitute herself if I didn't get her money, right? I was just a tender hearted idealistic kid, I didn't stand a chance against a soulless maneater like her. So she hurt me a lot, and she twisted my perspective on women..I was still stuck on her when I met you... But you showed me how caring and nurturing a woman can truly be. You destroyed any hold she still had on me.. I want to thank you for that. I thought I loved Tamelle, but you revealed that all to be one big lie...There is no price or value to be attached to that. Unfortunately that came with a condition: you replaced her in my heart.I still had twisted thinking from before and treated you badly. And you no doubt have a rule about men that do that. But I am a special case! That person that hurt you wasn't ME!! It was a remnant of the past! If you gave me another chance, that person would NEVER rise to the surface again, I swear it.But, congratulations on being happy, if this is so. (I thought you went out that night and just found some guy just to spite me) But if this guy truly makes you happy, then...OK. I love you Marie, I just want you to be happy...Raphael~???
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you... but its just not meant to be.. "Paying" was mentioned. Well I have paid much more over the years than I ever deserved to. If by now I haven't proved to her my sincerity, then she simply does not love me, and never did.
She won't meet with me in person, and gains significance in her mind by holding her forgiveness over my head, I'm sure of it. Well I won't humiliate myself anymore. Let her gain her confidence from some other fool, I'm done playing.
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reader, blueys491  +, writes (6 May 2009):
 Honestly, I think you should just meet with her face to face and tell her how you feel. Atleast for me the letter comes off more desperate then actual true feelings. (hope that makes sense) But I really think a face to face meeting might be better that way its more or less official whatever her decision is, and both of you got your chance to speak your piece
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): I think if you phrase it a bit more so that you aren't disclaiming the blame quite so much, then it would be perfect. Also, you don't want to have a "culprit" and a "victim", so just be aware of that.
Good luck and I really hope this helped,
-GG
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): From a girls perspective-
I wouldnt want to know about your ex so much.... even though she helped you through a rough time - focus on the relationship you had. Make it a little more clear what your intentions are with getting in touch!
If you are wishing her was a friend, or that you miss her... Hope it turns out good for you anyway:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): Well if she don't take you back I will....
just kidding.. but, in all notes it helps to explain what specificly happened and why. I only add the things bellow because when I was confronted with an issue like this, these words were similar to the ones spoken to me (which worked)...
Is there any way you can do this in person? If you love her and want her.. YOU are going to have to prove it pal... and You are going to pay.. sorry to say but thats the way it is..
How about " I didn't realize what I was doing I didn't even get to realize how much I loved you, needed you until you were gone. I am sorry I took US for granted and did not take care of you the way you took care of me."
if none of that works send her a link to this site... sometimes it helps to see how hard the other person is trying to prove themselves.
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