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writes:I met a girl in May this year, we got close, however she had a girlfriend whom shes been with for 3 years (I'm 20 and shes 21). We kissed, nothing more. I went to USA in July till Oct, we fell out whilst I was in USA. I felt sly as she cheated on her current gf at the time, and I got nasty over skype whilst in USA to the girl I like.Since i've been back we've chatted a lot and shes now single. However, she wont meet up yet knowing we both have feelings for eachother. She definitely likes the upper hand and likes to be in control. But i can tell she has a lot of feelings for me still. We're on the phone most nights for hours. I keep asking her to meet but she won't.Am I right to play this one cool and leave it a few months till we actually meet? Let her get over her ex fully, plus im in my final year of University, so I can prioritise my studies.But wow, I like this girl. She's beautiful. I want to get to know her more. On the phone last night she said herself that she's sccared to meet and both get serious too quick. she put in a comment about her brother now being engaged, but they started off being just mates for 2 years.I don't know what to do? I like her! But her not meeting me yet may suggest she doesn't think that much of me, as if she liked me as much as shes putting across, she will of wanted to meet up?Thank you,Jenny.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (19 November 2013):
 I think she sounds a bit shady and I would be very wary. Are you sure she's single? I've had a girl play me like this before. Just kept being elusive until finally I discovered she had a gf for years. Then it all made sense why she was so elusive! And especially since this girl has already done the whole cheating thing before, I wouldn't put it past her. Could she be back with her ex? Or perhaps reconciling?
The smart thing would be to walk away. Who needs games? I can't stand that s*it. But that's just me. But something about this feels off. Definitely stop pushing her to see you. Stop giving her the upper hand and back off. That will drive her crazy.
Anyway, good luck. be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2013): I think this girl knows that the minute you both meet ! Your both going to be in a relationship! Its not going to be a fling because you both have feelings and this girl is fully aware of that and she is scared of rushing into another relationship to soon after a break up !
This girl needs space to work on herself and even though you both want to see each other you need to give her this space to work on herself so she knows when she is finally ready to come to you for love !
You should be excited this girl wants you just as much as you want her just be patient !! :)
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