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writes:I have been talking to this guy for longer than a month and we get along well. We have both admitted to each other that we really like each other, however we both live in different states, 9-10 hours away from each other. We have spoken about a long distance relationship but he cannot do it. He still talks to me everyday, updating me on his life and we talk almost 3 or 4 hours straight per day. He had plans on seeing me in a month or so but is still up in the air; he is scared of seeing me because he knows he will catch feelings for me and be left heartbroken because he wont see me again for awhile. I have told him previously for my second degree I'm moving to another state and whether it would be his or not is still up for debate and whether or not I can get into a university there. This process would take until 2019 ... 2 years away and I don't know if I can wait for him that long.My feelings for him prevent me from exploring other opinions with other guys and it holds me back. He loves talking to me and we share so many personal things together. Letting him go would hurt me but keeping him would still hurt me, because I can't have what I want.I'm not sure what to do.. I want to talk to him but at the same time keeping him around will hurt me
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (26 March 2017):
 This may be cynical of me, but perhaps he wants you as his hook-up when he is in your vicinity?
Why not ask him straight out what he expects. How does he reasonably see your relationship blooming? Are you expected to live like a nun until some indeterminate point in the future?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the response! We both know that it's impossible for us to be together; however he still keeps messaging me, and always worries about me. If he knows we wont be together anytime soon, why would he keep messaging me?
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reader, Denizen +, writes (25 March 2017):
I don't think fate has meant you to be together. I would let him go as gently as you can.
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