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writes:I went tonight on a first date with this guy I chatted to sporadically over the years but never met before. All went well, he is the kind of 'boy- i thnk' who knows his own mind, a bit of a mummy's boy ( yes, i can spot them now'. but overalla charmer and.... extremely cuddly. I went along with it as he didnt feel creepy, but more lkeplaying up to the role of cuddly cute puppy eyes guy. I took it as a tease and joke and did not mind the odd cuddle. However he tried to steal a peck on my lips and I told him i feel unconfortable with that, and he respected that all evening, Howver, walking around, he wanted to hold hands. I was reluctant but we made it as a joke and I went along with it. I dont feel he violated my boundaries as I let him know what i felt comfortable with and what not. Overallthe conversation went magnificent, he is an intelligent guy and very phylosophical which I liked, we had loads to debate about,he got my attention in that way. But when I get home, he calls me to se eif I arrived ok. WHich is cool and I appreciate it. But he calls again after i brushed him off saying i have to have a shower. I dont answer but he insists, after 20mins. Overall a sweet guy, but.. in your dating experience, isnt that a bit freaky? He is very clevel, doing well for himself, but... lol lol lol... the thing i ran away most with my ex.... his mum(granted, from overseas) lives with him, and he declared his love for her on numerous occasions over the date. WHat do you make of ppl like this, ladies?
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (19 July 2009):
 He sounds all right in my book. What he did about calling to make sure you got home ok is sweet and 20 minutes later isn't bad - after a first date is a little much, but I've heard worse. And he respected your boundaries when you said you weren't comfortable when he tried to kiss you.
Now, in terms of him and his mother, what do you mean by "he declared his love for her on several occassions"? Do you mean to say he has said his mother will always be the only woman in his life or something? Perhaps he's a little insecure and hasn't dated much? If you like him and feel comfortable enough, go on a second date with him - if the two of you start to really click, perhaps he'll grow out of this "mama's boy" image.
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