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writes:So I'm 17, I have brown hair and blue eyes. I'm 5'4, I have a curvy figure and like to stay active. I enjoy photography, listening to music, writing magazine articles, trying new things and generally having fun. Recently, I've been feeling pretty low. I've never had a boyfriend, done anything with a guy or even experienced my first kiss. It never used to bother me, but as all of my friends have been getting boyfriends and experiencing their first kiss and other things it's made me think. I'm the only one of my friends that hasn't experienced anything like they have. This links in with me being ridiculously shy and having no confidence or self esteem. I've always been shy and kept things to myself, I feel that if I tell someone my problems I'm asking for attention and I don't want to feel like I am attention seeking. I have really bad acne, which doesn't help atall. I always feel so ugly and always feel the need to wear make-up. It never used to bother me as much but it's really making me feel like rubbish. I've recently started to like a guy my friend tried setting me up with, we have been talking since June and last week was the first time we met, but it was only brief (like, 5 minutes) We were talking, flirting and having a bit of banter. I got the impression he liked me as he would tell me he wanted to cuddle me, and how he wished i was with him and he puts 4-5 kisses on the end of his texts. I was hesitant on whether or not I should tell him I like him. In the end I did and his response was "You're lovely" this has lowered my non existent confidence. He said "I like you too but there's this other girl i like" I really don't understand? I'm so confused and upset and feeling really low. How can I help feeling like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2012): You can stop the feeling by not thinking about all the time. Im in college and i haven't found that guy myself but i have confidence in myself. i think Im beautiful and you should too! Don't worry about your friends, the guy who's meant for you will come :) i know you don't wanna hear that but you don't wanna settle for any guy because you still wouldnt be completely happy. Go out, have fun, and get prettyyyyy and have fun with your friends. Get your nails/hair done put on some lip gloss and work! I hope the guy of our dreams will come soon. & you should be proud you haven't went all out with a guy. i didn't have my 1st kiss until i was 17 but i wished i would have waited!!
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reader, Ajusayin  +, writes (12 November 2012):
Honestly you just gotta be patient. If you focus on other things in your life it'll take your attention off boys. You seem like a very interesting person and the more active you stay and the more you get out more the higher the chances you'll soon find somebody. Your young and you have plenty of time. boys are a pain anyway especially at that age. They don't know what they want and some just want to get in your pants :p your gonna deal with a lot of those now and when you get a litte older. I didn't have a bf in high school either still haven't found that somebody. I've had to go through a couple duds but I'm more focused on me now so if someone special comes along great! But I'm in no rush just have fun and don't stress over the guy either he's a dud too. Give your attention to someone who deserves it and gives you their undivided attention.
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