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writes:This isnt relationship troubles, BUT i really dont know what to do! Its bothering me so much, i cant think of anything else, its constantly on my mind! and ive still got like 7 months to wait before it even happens! me and my friend became very close for like a year! we were inseperable, best friends.. stayed at each others houses all the time! went everywhere together, told each other EVERYTHING and in july, shes going on holiday to florida! its a holiday of a lifetime! ive ALWAYS wanted to go.. and she asked me if i wanted to go with her! i got really excited! i spoke to my mum about it and she said YES! go for it. anyone would jump at the chance to go. right? mum said she would pay for me! and shes already paid the deposit. but im TERRIFIED.. im sort of 14/16 clothes, i have NO confidence whats so ever! im paranoid so bad its untrue! we have a private villa for 2 weeks, and obviously were gonna spend ALOT of time in the pool.. i CANT NO WAY! see myself in a bikini, whereas she has ALOT of confidence! etc... i snore quite bad, and they've been takin the piss out of me for it, but her aunt said id be fine... only, my friend (call her 1) recently has kinda shown her true colours.. like, buying me stuff for my birthday etc.. innapropriate things which i really dont find funny.. and shes shown a totally different side to herself. shes always slaggin (shes both of our friends, but ive known her all my life!) (call her 2) we were best friends for 15 years. me and 2 have kinda drifted apart though because of 1. i miss her alot, not been able to see her anymore n stuff, not talkin to her much anymore, 1 always slags her off and then it ends up coming back to me.. loadsa stuffs been goin on lately, i went through a bad relationship and 1 kinda mixed stuff, she came to a party at mine and as soon as she got home she added EVERY SINGLE ONE of my friends from my party on bebo + msn and tried to turn them against me! i really am loosing patients with her! and i dont know what to do i actually really do not wanna go now! i dont know what to do! i cant stop going over it in my head.. i even cried over it! i feel pathetic, yet im really worried! i dunno what to do! my mum will go MAD if i tell her i dont wanna go, its her, her mum and dad and me going! im gonna be away from all my family and friends for 2 weeks! and im soo scared. ive never even been abroad before! please someone what can i do?! its really really bothering me.. thanks for any advice in advance :( xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): Well, Spain sounds nice...but what happened with your "friend?" What did she do?
You'll probably have a much better time without her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe fell out, 1'1 has shown her true colours for real! My place is cancelled, I'm goin to Spain instead! lol x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): I can understand your apprehension. Whats up with this friend (1)???? I would ask her why she has turned against you this way. And I would talk to your Mom too. Let her know about your concerns.
As for your confidence level, you have 7 months to get into shape. And who says you have to wear a bikini? There are some really sexy one-pieces that flatter the positive parts of your body and hide the imperfect parts!
It could be a trip of a lifetime. I wouldn't discount it right away! Take a look at some of the options you have and try to put things in a positive prospective! But as I said talk to the two main characters of this situation...friend #1 and your Mom! Maybe your Mom can help you sort it all out!
I wish you luck on your decision and would love to know how it all turns out!
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