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*zrlinz
writes:Hi Aunts.Me and my boyfriend got into a big fight this weekend. A long time ago, we both had a mutual friend(who is a girl, it's his ex girlfriend from when he was younger and still stayed friends) but we had a falling out and stopped speaking to her. He knows I don't like her very much and not her biggest fan, and I just found out that he is talking to her again. But the thing is, that he lied to me twice about texting her, and hanging out with her and some friends. I was so hurt, and felt so betrayed. We talked it out, and he apologized many times, and told me that he didn't want to tell me because he didn't know how I would react, and he knew I would get really upset, so he was just trying to keep me happy by not telling me. He says it is friendly, and I believe him because he is the type of person that does not hold grudges, and likes getting in touch with old friends, and sometimes they are women. I have accepted this about him, and I understand where he was coming from on not telling me, because it is true that I would have gotten extremely upset, so in a way he was trying to protect me or whatever. I know he is committed to me, we live together and love each other very much...but this had set my trust back with him quite a ways. How do I repair this situation? After I initially found out, all the questions I asked him thereafter he answered truthfully...and I do love him, but what am I supposed to do now? We have been together for 2.5 years, and have gone through a lot, and have always been able to come through it together.
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reader, prenezmoila  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Time mends all wounds. If it's meant to be healed, it will heal. Your trust in him is important, and all I can truly say is I hope he's earned it. Good luck.
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