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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, ive started fancying this guy *****. Recently i've chosen to get really close to him, i liked him ages ago but never really felt like i wanted anything more, just a crush or something. Anyways, he always flirts with me, saying sexual comments-tryin to get a reaction out of me, he always makes me laugh(im not sure if its me laughin at everything he says because i fancy him or he generally is funny)i think he's gorgeous and i feel we have a connection. I've never felt this way about anyone, whenever i'm without him i'm thinking about what he said or what it'd be like if we started dating. and when im with him, i feel happy and safe, looking into his eyes makes me want to cuddle up to him all day long. Theres just one dilemma. He has a girlfriend. Well my mates who don't see me often live in a village nearby where he lives and say he has a girlfriend called Katie who i don't know, she apparently lives near him too. Of course i had to confront him about this and he seemed certain he hasn't got a girlfriend. What do i do?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Ok, so they broke up. Have you ever seen people break up only to get back together a month later? Don't chase this guy, don't pursue or you are liable to get hurt pretty badly....he needs time first to get over his breakup...he is now on the rebound and you don't want to be the rebound girl.
I still think he sounds like a sleaze what with all the sexual inuendos, not a very respectful person, he hasn't asked you out, hasn't kissed you, hasn't shown his cards and he is making sexual hints to you and you are giggling?
Please! Stop! Good looks do not a person make, he sounds like a first class jerk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, an update.
When he said he didnt have a girlfriend the other day, it turns out he did.. so he lied to me.
But now, he's single. They broke up and he told my friend yesterday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): You won't want to hear this but here is a couple of truisms.
There is always some truth to rumors.
Why would your friends lie about this Katie they live in the same village, you don't.
He sounds smooth like he can pull the wool over your eyes.
Him saying sexual things to you and you laughing is not charming in my book, he sounds sleazy and he is testing you to see if you are easy or are going to be an easy lay.
Some gorgeous guys are jerks, they play women with their charms and looks and don't have a lot of character as they have skated through life this way, be careful.
Another truism, there is a danger in a "connection" a lot of times this is merely hormones and brain chemicals from lust clouding your rational brain. The intensity of your feeling hides the reality of the situation, this guy is a player, he has a girlfriend and he is lying to you about it to keep you on the string.
Back off....and see how hard he pursues you, do not give him sex for at least three months maybe more, if he is really into you he will be glad just to be in your company and he will respect you more.
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