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writes:Hi i have a 7 month old baby and since having him iv gone off sex im 22 and really worrid about this could you please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (22 February 2007):
 Hi
Someone who have children might agree with me on this, there is nothing wrong with you, sometimes it happens to new mothers that they find themselves with very low sexual interest I think its caused by our maternal responsibilities topped with the excitement that comes with it, if you are the possessive type even if you have a lot of help around you, it is not easy to let go, you feel like no one will do it right more than you do. So instead of balancing your life between work, school, social life, parenting, house work, wife or any other duties; after the baby is born you find yourself with little time to do things your priorities changes to be bath the baby, feed the baby, clean the baby’s room, play with the baby, etc repeating all these the whole day and as a human being should, this makes you tired at the end of the day sex is the last thing on your mind all you want to do is to put the baby to bed and fall asleep until the next day. All you need to do now is to be able to let go the baby is stuck with you for the rest of your lives he/she is not going anywhere, so learn to balance your lifestyle and your sexual intimacy will be rekindled don’t push yourself too hard.
Another reason for this can be what the other aunt said, if the pregnancy was unplanned the thought of sex reminds you that you might fall pregnant again and this is what is killing your mood, and this can be caused by the anger you still have inside for letting your guard down or being irresponsible; face up to it and learn to see this child as the greatest gift no one could ever give you because there are so many people who long to have children but cant have them, they have all the things money can buy but cannot afford a child because it is priceless. This is how I overcame my anger because I had a child when I was 19 and believe me it wasn’t easy I hated the father and anyone who congratulated me I thought they were just feeling sorry for me, I have two aunts who will do or pay anything to have a child but cant because this is a natural gift no one can fathom and that helped me a lot.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Hey,
maybe you've gone off sex because you think you are ready but really, deep down inside somethings' telling you not to because you feel, after having your baby you may fall pregnant again. And, seeing your baby an abortion if you did is now unthinkable.
Stay looking after your baby for a bit and see what happens...
Hope this helped!
Phoebe xxXxx
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