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writes: Hello. I'm nearly 15 and I know this is a site for adults with real relationship problems and worries, and I feel a bit pathetic as a hapless teenager using this site, but there you go. I just want advice. A few days ago I returned from the German Exchange with my school. On it, I met the girl of my dreams. She's everything I've ever looked for, and even though we only knew each other for 3 days, they were special. We both liked each other so much, and yet I have to wait until March before I see her. After that, unless I fork out for plane fares (which I'm perfectly willing to do for this girl), I may never see her again. I have her MSN address, but I don't want to turn our already fragile relationship into a cyber relationship so that it just turns artificial. I want this to be real so badly, but am I just being completely ridiculous thinking of having a relationship with a girl thousands of miles away? (I live in England by the way). If I could get a plane to see her every few months, would that work? She could easily cheat on me if we did end up going out, but then again, she's just not the sort of girl to do that. Am I just giving myself a ton of unnecessary heartache by willing this long distance love to be real? Could it ever work? I'd really appreciate advice on this question, because I'm at a complete loss as to what to do about the girl of my dreams who lives thousands of miles away. Thanks for taking your time to read this as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): well.. i am in the same situation but i know the girl a couple of years, but we only talking from msn or myspace etc.. so i went to see her and i think i fallen i love with her.. what i think? if you could going to her country a few times a year and shes doing the same would be ok but its a of of money.. otherwise you will have to try to forget her because if you insist your feelings will brake you up and then starts the depression, being alone and all that stuff witch are not good for people and especially for your age. try talking for that with close friends or parents or doing things, will help you feel better also try to discuss with her and see if she feels the same and find a solution. best wishes
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (27 October 2008):
 Good luck i hope it all works out for you
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reader, pennypoohs +, writes (26 October 2008):
pennypoohs is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you, very useful advice.
i think i'm going to ask her to come and stay with me soon, but if not, i'll keep in touch with her. one day, somehow, i hope to make it work...
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (26 October 2008):
People do crazy things when there in love because when your in love it feels like you could not live without that person that if you could you would move all the stars just to be with them and make them smile.
The only major problem you really have is the money to see each other that and the fact your in 2 diffrent coutries and the paranoia you might suffer could/would ruin your relationship.
If you and her both want this then go for it dont live your life doing anything you will regret if it does not work then learm from your mistakes
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reader, pennypoohs +, writes (25 October 2008):
pennypoohs is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut at 15, is it practical, or is it just ludicrous?
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (25 October 2008):
Long distance relationships are hard but in some cases they do work, if you are really in love with this girl and she is in love with you (after 3 days)then there is no harm in atleast trying and seeing how things go and see if you work otherwise you will always ask yourself "what if".
Find out what she wants and how she feels before you make any decisions, but in matters of love it is always best to follow your heart rather then your head. Good luck to you
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